Interesting.
I remember a photographer I worked with who was a good friend, and he brought his daughter along to a gig he was shooting with me, and she had just suffered a miscarriage.
Sitting down with her before the gig, I asked her how she was, and I was surprised and sad when she said that I was the first person outside her family and close friends who had asked that question. She said it was harder because people avoided the subject, and made her feel it was her fault.
After a long and unburdening chat, she thanked me for actually asking how she was, which was all she really wanted - to talk it over and get her feelings out.