Taking Life Of Your Father

[Magi2]

Father suffers mental,physical trauma by bad decisions made by daughter about his health treatment, father completely ignorant about it begs daughter to save him crying, daughter completely ignores & father dies.what punishment should daughter get?

[Magi2]

Also she has no other sibling apart from younger brother that I mentioned before , mom was in isolation so could not come in contact with the kids often , she did talk to him but help if any was to be done only daughter was there that is why her dad asked her to save him, had she acted in time when he was conscious and talking things would not have been this tragic

[cashier]

She did nothing wrong. She has been punished enough by you cataloguing her 'mistakes' and telling the world about it.

[davebro]

I would make her write out 100 times:

I will try to ensure that my sick relatives receive as much medical care as I am able to secure.

[Magi2]

I did not intend telling the world , she was upset at work place, and asked for my advice, but I didn't discuss it with other colleagues as they might judge her, I thought I should take help from a forum where people will tell their views more truthfully and without being biased,so that I don't give any wrong suggestion to her

[MallyJ]

I am sorry to say this but you sound horrible....this was a man who has been very ill for years...he may have looked strong but you can't see what is happening inside him. You are so critical of his daughter and seem to be unable to look after her as a friend should do. Her fathers death is not her fault.. no matter what she feels (and we all feel we could have done more when smeone close to us dies).... she needs help to realise that she is not to blame and you seem incapable of helping her....that is the saddest thing about all of this in my opinion

[bednobs]

it sort of seems to me that someone who had a large medical history as he did, plus needed icu care for covid was not going to survive anyway

[Magi2]

Medical history is not the criteria for recovery, there are old people with co morbities recovering while young people with no medical history dying, also saying its not her mistake at all will not help her, she needs to know that sometimes we should be more vigilant and seek help in need so that regret is not there of shouldas, couldas,wouldas.
Isn't just the question of him able to survive, death is to come to everyone of us, but the trauma he went through and feeling of grief, regret and remorse she has can be avoided , this she needs to understand as her mother too is diabetic and BP patient , what if she repeats same mistakes in case of her mother too in future, we as colleagues are there to help her but some things she need to understand, nobody is perfect but carelessness can result in serious irreversible damages

[MallyJ]

You really are unpleasant....trying so hard to punish this young woman because you think she didn't do enough...interestingly where was the mother? I really wish you would leave her alone. To continue to make someones life a misery and guilt trip them the way you are doing is just plain nasty. I suggest you mind your own business and , if you are unable to see how foul you are being because of your beliefs , leave this poor bereaved girl alone and do stop just being so nasty and horrid. From what you have said that man could not have lived through everything he was facing anyway. I have never come across such nastiness before.

[bednobs]

yep, you sound like a great friend!

[Magi2]

Also,
She used to tell that her dad was always full of life, they all had seen struggle physical mental nd financial, now that children have finally started settling and life was to be good from now ended up, I feel sorry for dad as he was a jolly natured man ,full of life , cracking jokes and laughter , wanted to live his life now after fulfilling his responsibilities, a time for him to enjoy his own life but suffered , he may or may not be corona +ve as he had tried to safeguard himself by 2 doses of vaccine the covid would not be life threatening, he didn't die due to covid but cardiac arrest , may be the doc didn't know of his serious cardiac issue as she didn't tell me if she informed the doc about it nd she says she doesn't remember
Also her lack of enquiring with her dad must have given an impact on both treating docs and staff that no one in his family cares about him so why should they, dad must have felt the same
Does she not have the right to know what mistake she made so that they are not repeated in future ?

[bednobs]

i think you should really keep your nose out. you dont know any of this first hand - only what she has told you

[MallyJ]

You really are horrible...she can work out her own mistakes but you are just enjoying making her feel bad. I do wonder, more seriously, what is wrong with you to be so vile towards someone else...What makes you enjoy hurting people like you are attempting to do to this girl? What is wrong with you?

[cashier]

She didn't take the life of her father, he died, she didn't kill him, that's what you should make her understand. You've not mentioned how old he was.

[Mamyalynne]

I feel dreadfully sad for this poor young woman, she deserves far far better from friends and family, not punishment - to even think that way is sadistic.

She will carry her own guilt and certainly has no need of it being reinforced by others.

[naomi24]

I’ll put this as diplomatically as I can but I think there’s something very odd about this story.