Why Doesn’t My Boyfriend Treat Me?

[Questionasker98]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year and he’s literally never bought me a gift randomly.

I always get him random gifts of things I know he wants or know he would like, but he just doesn’t do the same back. I’m not giving the gifts for anything in return as I genuinely love giving gifts, but I can’t help but feel upset that he doesn’t do it for me.

I’ve noticed that when we go shopping he will always get something for his family just because he wants to. He’s asked me a couple of times when I’ve looked at a cute top or something if I want it, but I always say no because it feels awkward that he asks and I’ve never had anyone buy me anything so I don’t know how to act.

The other day we were in a shop and he noticed me eyeing up a pair of trousers and he offered to buy them for me, which I thought was nice of him, but when I said are you sure? You really don’t have to, he just walked away from the item so I kind of felt like he didn’t want to buy them obviously, but then the next shop we went in he purchased a phone £215 for his mom.

I would never want someone to spend that much on me, it’s not even about how much was spent, it’s just the idea that someone wants to treat you. I’d have been happy with a book or some flowers.

I just want to know what I should do? It’s really starting to make me see him in a negative light because I don’t feel he’s as thoughtful as me.

Please help, advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Mamyalynne]

You're trying to mould him into someone he isn't, random isn't his style.

Now and then when he offers to buy just accept.

If you keep trying to alter his ways you'll push him away.

[bookbinder]

It's not surprising that he doesn't give you surprise gifts. You keep turning down his offers, so he's probably got the impression that you don't want anything from him.

[AuntPG]

Your boyfriend has asked you on numerous occasions if you would like him to buy you something, and you have said no. Men are weird sometimes -they do not want to buy random things for their partners in case they get it wrong. I've been married for 30 years and my OH still gets it wrong! Sometimes his surprises are more like shocks lol! Next time you are out if you see something nice, not too pricey ,say how nice it looks and if he offers to buy it let him, and make him realsie how special it makes you feel. He will then get to know what tastes you have, and maybe the surprise gifts may come later.

[pastafreak]

It sounds as if he *is* trying to treat you. Maybe not in the way you want, but asking if you'd like something is just his way. If you continue to decline his offer, he'll stop asking.

[Todddd]

EXCUSES ; I put my money on this one .If your partner starts making excuses to see you I can bet a billion dollars “lol I don’t have it “ they are sleeping with someone else . Cheaters are generally very careful when they are cheating. They tend to cover their tracks but something’s are hard to cover up, contact trackware007@gmail .com TO HELP YOU DIG OUT WHATEVER YOUR PARTER IS HIDING . For example. You can lie your way through a relationship but it’s hard to fake feelings because feelings are not words they are not heard, feelings are felt and your partner sooner or later he/she is going to sniff out the ***. If your partner suddenly too busy for you, chances are they out there making time for someone else.