puzzled

[terrij]

has anyone ever really fancied someone of the opposite sex from work, or some place, who you can play about with, really have a laugh and have this special chemistry between you, whether alone or in a crowd of people, but then when you get the chance to go out and actually be together everything seems so strange..you dont seem to play about so much...and i kind of get the vibes we are both nervous...but i dont understand why...i have never felt like this before and i would love to know if anyone else ever has.........thanks

[4getmenot]

If this is a situation of yours, do you fancy this person?? Coz if you do maybe you get like this because it seems more like a date than being at work etc. and you get nervous. If so it seems he fancies you too.

[lizw]

I think it's because you've taken it away from the 'safe' environment of just playing even though you both had the spark there. Suddenly, all the flirting and laughing is allowed and can go further and it's terrifying! I know - it happend to me with somebody from work - very, very similar. Also, with me, I was scared that if it didn't work out as a 'proper' relationship, it would ruin what we had before.

It could also be that once it's out in the open and acknowledged it's not as exciting anymore?

[Scarlett]

Story of my life. You are both afraid to carry on the flirtation, as when you are alone it becomes reality and a possibility, which neither of you are certain about.

I am about to go away (recording) this weekend, with the one I fancy and the rest of the band. Now it turns out that only he and I are staying in the B&B as the others have to go back for a gig. I KNOW that we will not flirt, have fun or do any of that chemistry stuff, which we WOULD have done if there had been more of us there!! Frustrating isn't it...

[terrij]

Thankyou so much for your answers, it has made me feel so much better, i thought maybe it was just me......is'nt it funny how we all react in these situations...really it should be the happiest time when we are alone with the one we want to be with....but then when we've got what we want we dont know what to do with it ha ha.....i hope you have a great weekend away Scarlett....and 4getmenot and lizw have a great weekend too....thanks all for making me feel happier!

[4getmenot]

Awww thanks terrij I will do that. :-) All the best with the 'situation' xx