Why don't men notice?

[Otrere]

My friend has recently had a posh new hair-do and her other half never even battered an eyelid, didn't even make one single comment and she is a mite unimpressed to say the least.

Why do a lot of men never notice (I'm not saying ALL of them!) when a woman has a new hair-do?

[tradey]

thats men for you hun,ive lost a stone in weight and my hubby hasnt even said a thing but other people have,i think they go around with blinkers on ha ha

[andy-hughes]

It sounds obvious, but it's true - men genuinely do not see these changes in their loved ones. It appears they are disinterested, but it's simply that men are not genetically programmed to notice changes in familiar visions, including people.

That's not to say that a modern man cannot over-ride these inadequacies, but it's the reason why many of them don't.

I am not making excuses here - I always notice if my wife has her hair done, or a new outift, but having grown up with two sisters, and having three daughters, I spend more time in female company than a lot of men.

[ronnie963]

i think they see as children see.

Children look you straight in the eye and see the person from within. They act like children they see as children.

oh the innocent beings

[bob57]

maybe for a laugh she dyes her hair bright pink or if she does'nt want to go that far a bright pink wig it might make him sit up and notice

[leandrews]

I think it's a question of time.

If you see someone every day, you don't notice changes in their appearance. If however, you see someone after a lapse in time, you're more likely to notice any changes.

I used to work in a creche, and seeing most children every day, I never noticed any changes in them. But after coming back from holiday, it was much easer to notice differences in their development.

[trevHCS]

What is it with women & having their hair done? There are probably a number of reasons why we don't notice:

- It looks basically the same as before, but you just spent �80 having someone convince you otherwise.

- We aren't your boyfriend/husband just because of your hair. It's an overall thing that most guys look at (although some have more narrow requirements)

- As mentioned previously, we don't memorise little things like that. In fact ask any guy to describe what his gf/wife was wearing when he last saw her and most won't know. Then again, ask him what he had for lunch and most won't remember little things like that either...

I guess we're designed to remember bigger things like whether that rock that looks awfully like a lion was there 10 minutes ago.

[zombie1000]

I think he's lucky that she still makes the effort. Most women let themselves go after a while. Only joking girls!!

[Fish Kid]

Perhaps he thinks her new hair-do makes her look daft, and he thinks not saying anything will mean she doesn't have it done again.

Works for me.

[OBonio]

My wife never comments on how lovely I am when I stagger in at 3am after herculean amounts of beer. In fact, she actively discourages my advances on her!

You just can't win!

[zara 4]

I guess men (husbands+partners) don't mention it even if they do notice but if another guy comments on how the woman looks its amazing how the husband suddenly takes notice.

[rachela500]

I think the question is 'Why do they PRETEND not to notice?'!! I think a lot of men find it difficult to make compliments to anyone (men + women), so it's just easier for them to pretend not to notice and therefore not have to say "Your hair looks nice"