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Falling for him
Hi all,
I am falling for a married man whom i work with (i am long term temping presently) - he is in a very important position and at our works Xmas dinner (through the demon drink) we shared a brief kiss and a dance together, his wife was also present at this party, to which he said we had to be careful, but even now I cant stop thinking about him, he often pops into the office where i work and will sit and chat with me..........he is just gorgeous and I know there is some attraction there between us...but in reality i know nothing will come of it.....this is sooo difficult but we often share the odd glance and its extremely difficult in meetings as I have to sit and take the minutes when all i can think of is being with him....i am hopeless...he is older than me too...not that has much to do with it, but i just think he is wonderful.
RQ xx
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Hi there ! I hope you don't mind me asking, but how old are you ? I know it happened to me before ( although he wasn't my boss, just a sort of father figure : ie the manager of the international youth hostel I was staying in ) and it took me, believe it or not, 2 years, and moving out ( of the country, as it is ! ), to get over him. It happened again -you never learn- a few weeks ago, with my manager at work. ( TO BE CONTINUED AS THE AB POLICE THINKS MY POST IS TOO LONG LOL ))
RRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAA ! IT WON'T LET ME PASTE ! LOL
nevermind, I'll write it again....****** !
Anyway, this manager at work, whom I didn't think much of to begin with, got frienlier and friendlier with me over time, then after a party with work peeps, he asked me if I wnated to do the "after" at his...Bad as I am, I said yes, and well..the rest is history. the next time at work, he was all weird with me, so I just went up to him and talked about work. He could see I wasn't a mad stalker, so we got talking more. Turns out the guy had a GF, who was away on a trip at the time, but coming back soon. Imagine that. Anyway, I took it lightly (although I really liked him...), and, to cut a long story short, he now is a mate, and tells me all about how his "next" GF ( see how much of a gentleman he is ! ) will not be anything like this or that.
Anyway, to sum it up, your guy, just like mine, is a player. He gets a kick out of seducing a younger woman ( mine is 16 years older ), but that's all it is. A kick. Like every man his age, what he's looking for is a stable life, stable wife ( and/or Gf ! ). Call it middle-age trauma, or whatever, but that's what it is. Apologies to men out there who ar NOT like that ( and most of men are not ) ! Take it as a fun "ride" and get him out of your mind. Have fun. That's all he's doing, after all ! ;-)
Roughquest, its called eating out the palm of his hand, He's in the power seat and you go all starry eyed and weak kneed.
It seems to be some sort of fatal attraction with you, He's gorgeous/wonderful etc. He seems a waste of space, also as he has no respect for his wife.
I would also advise that you stay of the booze if your easily led, My view is your nothing other than a temp to him, He thinks he's on some sort of pedastall and you are looking up to him.
Just another point if he's one of the big cheeses then and you jeopardise his position by carrying on, i'm sure he can make your long term temp position suddenly become supplus to requirements.
I'm sorry if you think i'm being extremely harsh, but you better get over it sooner rather than later as theirs only one outcome, and guest what its not you and him.
I know where you are all coming from, I really do, I have been in this position before, but he is not my boss, and I don't work with him directly, we are not in the same building. He just visits from time to time.....but its still difficult....and I agree men are players and they are also very weak....but what the hell he still has the most gorgeous eyes I have ever seen..... ahhhhhhhhh.
Im not a youngster either LOL, even though he must be at least 7 years older than me!
I shall refrain from temptation.....
RQ xx