Fed up

[yardie]

if your other half is extremely abusive verbally and usually says sorry till now its just no longer acceptable. what would u do? My partner smokes a lot u think it causes it. i have spoken endlessly about it already!!!!!!!

[loopyc]

what is your partner smoking if its cannabis that can be known to make some people aggresive.

[yardie]

what is cannabis? smokes cigarette and green bush

[4getmenot]

My ex used to get like this. He then got tablets from docs to calm him down and help our relationship and I dumped him. Woops :-)

[yardie]

this one thinks nothing is wrong but i think he is schisophrensic - mood swing and most time its agressive. im planning that too 4getmenot :-). i cant sacrifice my happiness at all!!!! My mom usually say anything that makes us happy!!!!!!!!! U get me!!!

[redcrx]

Yardie,

I see from your other posts that you have a young child, have you discussed this with your health visitor at all?

Also isnt your partner having problems with an ex and his other child?

Stress makes people say what they dont mean. It may be that counselling could help but smoking illegal substances wont help matters in the long term.

[4getmenot]

Wow you�re on the ball redcrx. If this is true then that could be the reason. If you�re not happy because of the problems it helps to work at it but if you�re not happy full stop maybe its time for a change. :-)

[dancealot13]

cannabis is Weed, marijawanna. pot etc. all the same thing.

[PhilBy]

Green bush is cannabis yardie, stuff like 'skunk' is quite powerful and can cause the symptons you describe. (In some folk but not all) I don't know how strong your relationship is but could you suggest (pick a good time) he leaves off the puff for a day or two to see if things improve.

[yardie]

redcryx,

i love that man, u remember me. :-)

i spoke to the health visitor yesterday and she said he needs help but i cant just approach it like that because of his temper. Mind u when he is calm he is ok but i choose what to say to him. i am also on the quiet side whilst his mouth is very light.

Philby,

i will try to do that tomorrow. will let u know if it works.

[redcrx]

Yardie,

Its a difficult one for you. How are you coping with having a young child and having this to deal with? I have a young son and, even with a darling partner like mine, its hard to look after a young baby at times.

Have you thought about maybe seeking help by another means. Maybe if you told him that you were finding it hard to cope with the baby blues and could he think about coming to see a counsellor with you for that

Or try and get a member of his family to point out that his relationships with his children will suffer if he continues in this manner? He has to think of how his young child will see things if they grow up with an abusive father or without a father at all.

[yardie]

Redcryx,

i spoke to his sis but she says that from she know him he doesnt listen to anyone and if he knows i tell her he might get worse. i rang his dad once in front of him and he refused to come to the phone.

im going to try that councellor thing. one of the worse things is when someone doesnt admit that they need help. u get me!!!!!!!!!

Thanks a lot. keep u posted.