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[Headless Rat]

Hi,was seeing a guy for ayear(we're both 23).Spent A LOT of time together&were rarely with others though we could be if we wanted as we were never b/f g/f.He has a 1.5yr old baby from his last relationship which lasted 2.5yrs. This was his reason for not wanting to commit.I also did not want to commit as i didn't want to be tied to one person at such a young age.For the last 4 months he never asked to meet up, when we did meet it was because i had suggested it.Obviously i felt he wanted to end things so i suggested it but he said he definitely didnt want to.Things didnt change so a month later i ended it. i said please not to contact me for a while to give me time to get over him.5 wks later he texted me, was all flirty,suggested that if i was bored i could invite him for a drink! i declined. i met him out 2 weeks later & had the BEST kiss EVER!we were both REALLY smiley after it- he said he missed me like mad&he never stopped reminiscing about all the fun we had together.i said id been surprised that he'd texted after i finished things but he said he had just done that to see how i was&for me not to read into it!!!what the hell is that supposed to mean?!we are both VERY proud people& I think neither of us would ever like to be the first to admit to how we feel.i dont think he knows how i feel about him but i just CANT bring myself to tell him that im mad about him as I fear he'll just say "well i can't commit at the moment because my baby is my priority".It would KILL me to hear such a sensible reason!he said after 9 months of being together that he couldnt believe he felt this way about someone so soon after becoming a dad yet when i ended things he said that he had never said it was anything more than a "casual thing". Ive seen him with someone else since then &it hurt like hell!i want to get him back before he gets too involved with her!!!what do i do!

[teag1rl]

sorry headless rat but I think you should forget him. He's a jerk there's a lot of em about :o(

[hannahjo]

I recon the only thing to do is tell him how you feel & what you want from a relationship with him. You never know he might feel the same! And if he doesn�t then yes its going to hurt like hell, but if you are really into him and things carry on the way they are you�ll probably get hurt anyway because of the no strings attached thing, plus you�ll probably be craving for constant reassurance that he is as serious about you, which isn�t fun, I should know I�ve been there! If he doesn�t feel the same you can then decide whether you want to cut him out of your life and get over him. But hopefully that won�t be the scenario, good luck!! xxx

[undercovers]

sounds like he was worried you were moving on without him and wouldn't want him anymore - so he text and flirted until you were hooked again and then goes back to not wanting to commit. Tell him how you feel, that you need commitment and that a baby wouldn't have any affect on that and see what he says - if he goes back to his previous line then stop the relationship and take no more calls from him as he is clearly playing you.

all the best - undercovers

[Abundance]

Hi HR,

I'm sorry to say but I feel that you've been wasting your precious emotions on this bloke because I don't really think he is interested. Yes its obvious that he liked you but i'm afraid its also obvious that he wasn't crazy about you or you would have known for sure, there would have been no excuses about being commited or having a baby to consider.

My advice to you is to pick yourself up, brush yourself down and go forward. Don't waste anymore time looking back, wishing and hoping.

Good luck love :o)

[Dee Sa]

sounds to me like he found someone else and after 5 weeks it didnt work out, so he sent you a flirty text message to boost back his ego.

drop him now.