Have you had a hard life?

[littletimmy]

I would always consider myself to have had a hard life.However my Mum always used to say to me there is always someone worse off then yourself.Would you say you have had a hard life?

[~posy-jo~]

i think i've had a harder life than some but nowhere near as hard as some others. everything that has happened in my life has got me to where i am now. i think everything happens for a reason and i'm glad what happened to me happened because it got me to where i am now and makes me realise how good my life is now. i could wish for a bit more (who doesn't) bit more money, my husband having to work less hours etc but we're are happy and healthy and so are our 2 beautiful children - what more could i wish for? xXx

[scruffscat]

when i was in my twenties i always used to think i had had a hard life yes,but i think, now that im in my late thirties i have realised actually i havent.There is always someone worse off than yourself, my lovely bf. used to work in an orphanage in paraguay full of children whos parents could not afford them,that was where they would spend their young lives, so those kind of things put it into perspective for me now

[The Tiggster]

No, I've been brought up in a very loving family, have been blessed by meeting my husband & our healthy baby son being born. Times were hard when we were kids as there wasn't a spare penny to rub together but we had a nice home, food on the table & clothes on our backs & most importantly lots & lots of fun!

My Mum's had a hard life, diagnosed with MS 25 years ago & struggles with life from day to day.

[boobesque]

i am the same as jo, i have had it harder than other, but i know that people have had a lot worse than me, so i am not one for self pity. And all the things i have been through and still do sometimes make me strongher as a person

[Agent_Smith]

i think most people have had a bumpy ride along the way, but you only have to look at people with diseases and those suffering with starvation and poverty, also those affected with disability's in life! you soon get to grips with your life!

[noxlumos]

I had an exceptionally bad start and allowed that to affect me into adulthood for a while which after I'd reached adulthood was entrirely my own fault. I woke up to that fact and now have a wonderful life, fantastic wife and children and successful businesses but do worry that it'll all suddenly end and that I'm not really entitled to it, like somehow there's been a mistake and I've got someone else's nice life.

[baileys]

A hard life has a lot to do with how you think about things. If you are used to having most of what you want and now are not able to have it then life in your eyes may be very hard. If you are used to having very little and have to work hard to get better things then life is not bad at all. Life is what you make of it. Feeling sorry for yourself will gain nothing. examine what you have and take the time to learn about life littletimmy.its what you make of it.

[girl_lesbian]

I've had a brilliant life :-) I appreciate how lucky I am.I absolutely love every day and try to make the most of every minute.

[Octavius]

When do you decide to look back on your life and say you have had a hard life? 20's, 30's... 90's?

[loopyc]

i had it hard from about 15 to 23, bulling, abusive boyfriend, rape, to list just a few but i am now really strong because of this it is true what doesnt kill you makes you stronger, and i am also no fool i no people have had it a lot harder than me.

[beejaybee]

I was brought up with plenty to eat & plenty of love. Material things were n`t important when I was a kid as there wasn`t the peer pressure there is nowadays. My 1st marriage was a violent one, but I got out of that quickly. I`ve had various health probs for over 25 years. Hard done by, NOWAY. I`m in a very happy marriage, have a great family & am glad to be alive. Each day I wake up is a bonus.Some don`t get to do that.

[sexyrussian]

One of my brothers commited suicide when I was 16.He was described by a syciciatrist as being the most severe case of scizophrenia he had ever see.He threatened me saying he would kill me when I was asleep.He had to be taken away for all our safety but commited suicide when we were on holiday in North Wales by jumping off Menai Brigde.My Oldest sister died of an unknown virus two years before that.My other 4 brothers are all scizophrenic but 3 of them are very mild.The other one must be locked up all day.I find it very difficult thinkking of my brother in there but I understand he cannot possibly be allowed out.I try to look to the future and think positive.I would say I have had a hard life but when I think of my brother I realise I am in some ways very lucky.

[dancealot13]

My cousin has had a very hard life but you would never guess it by talking to him.

He was out at a bar one night (15 years ago), a fight broke out near him and someone shot a gun. The bullet ricashede and hit my cousin, he instantly was paralyzed from the waist down...this was 3 months before his wedding day. He is still paralyzed till this day, and will be for the rest of his life. Several years after that he lost both of his parents and they were only in their 60's. A year later his wife was diagnosed with cancer, she received treatment, the most a person can receive in a lifetime and it went into remission. Doctors said receiving that much radiation can cause Leukemia in the future. Soon after, his sister (37 years old) wasn't feeling well around chirstmans time. She went to the doctors and found out she had kidney stones. They blew up the stones with a lazor. A peice of stone got into her bloodstream and caused an infection in her blood, she became very ill from the infection so they induced a choma....two weeks later, just after Christman she died while she was in the choma. It was a freak incident. Now his sister was gone.

Recently he found out his wife has cancer again, but this time it's Leukemia.

After all he's been through, he still wakes up and lives his life with a smile on his face. And even though they couldn't have children because of his accident, they were able to adopt a baby from China. And that is their pride and joy, and one of their many reasons to keep fighting through, and to just keep living.

[littletimmy]

dancealot13 some people are so inspirational aren't they? Alos sexyrussian I doubt I shall ever say anything nasty to you ever again.That is one hell of alot you have had to deal with at such a young age.These are the best answers I have ever had. You all seem like really nice people( even sexyrussian).

[Pippa68]

Hmmm this is all relative really isn't it? I would say I have had hard times in my life, and there have also been very good times. My life is not yet over so I am pretty sure I will get both good and bad times to come.

I know of people who have had horrendous pasts, and also people who claim to have had them but are not nearly so bad..whilst of course to them they were still bad.

sexyrussian you have never mentioned all this before ~ mental illness runs in my family so I have had quite a lot of experience with it. It can be crippling and at worst, devastating.

Just a little nitpick but I would have thought you would be able to spell psychiatrist by now ;o)

[sexyrussian]

No I can't spell hardly anything.I have alot of syciatrists coming to the house but it doesn't t help me to spell the word.

[Pippa68]

You could try learning it ~ unless you are dyslexic? not a dig at you..just curious!

[sexyrussian]

Can't be bothered!

[Octavius]

Yes it is all relative, hence my original point (albeit not too clear).

Without wishing to sound insensitive, the above are all localised events or traumas that lead to the roller coaster of life and it's emotions. Yes we have all been affected by something whilst growing up (myself included) it doesn't mean I have had a hard life - in fact I hope I have a lot more of it to live. I would consider that we in the Western (developed) world are rather fortunate that we have the means to overcome these things in life.

If for example, taking some of those eg's above, you were in an underdeveloped country it is very unlikely that you would have access to good medical care, bereavement counselling, victim support, self help groups or people qualified and willing to assist the disabled or handicapped. On top of all this, you are generally extremely poor, malnourished or starving and in constant threat of violence, abuse and death.

Sometimes I think that people who mope about thinking they have had a hard life should go and live in one of those places for a while.

[sexyrussian]

I can assure you if any of my brothers had a chance of living with a normal mind and in severe poverty or lving in a secure mental institution with millionaire parents they would be on the plane to Africa the next day.