am I needy?

[I-say]

Talking to my boyfriend on the phone tonight. He said I was sad because I said I wanted him to show some emotion. The fact that I was asking him.Does that make me sad, or him just an uncaring pig?

[Slooow_Jo]

Moved 100 miles away & had an affair !! doesn't sound good when put like that does it :( have you thought about how you'd advise a close friend in your situation? I find that sometimes helps me to work stuff out in my own head.

[jay90]

i think the situation speaks for itself..well on screen anyway...there are men out there who care as well as being good in bed!(your talking to one....only joking!) i think you deserve more personally...the new job will either make or break you...be strong i-say....

[I-say]

Jo, I know....and my friends and family have told me that this relationship is no good for my self esteem. I keep hanging on in there. I am in a complete muddle. A part of me thinks I will never meet anyone else. So I keep hanging on in there. I feel pathetic really. Am I?

[scatty mare]

I hate to say it, but it sounds like he's taking you for granted. It's easy to say and hard to do, but make it clear to him you're getting on with your life and not waiting for his calls. Ignore a few, make yourself more unavailable. He might appreciate you more if he thought he could lose you. To be honest, you sound too good for him anyway!

[jay90]

typical,seems he loves having the power over you..have you always done the chasing?do you know his male friends well or are they the "same"?

[I-say]

I know for a fact he is taking me for granted. This weekend is his last here before he moves for his new job (accomodation sorted. living with his brother) Friday night he is out with mates from work, and he asks if i am free Saturday (i am actually) but letting him know I am free, is again, me being at his beck and call.....I want to see him... .but part of me wants to say B*gger off.....

[jay90]

definately not pathetic,just dont let the age thing be a factor in this...you deserve more i-say...scatty is right...

[I-say]

The thing is, If I make myself unavailable...... he doesnt care. He will always turn it round to make me look sad, or desparate.

[jay90]

you need to get out of it then.all very well for me to say from the comfort of my keyboard..but no-body should be made to feel sad and desperate in the name of love...it may seem like a wrench but you will look back from a much happier place and wonder how you allowed your self to get involved with a self obsessed a hole x

[Slooow_Jo]

I-say I think you've just answered yourself with your second post on this page hun :-(

Its no good staying with someone just because you may not find someone else..In my opinion its far far worse to stay with someone your not 100% sure of (or near as damn it), coz while your 'wasting' your time with them you could be missing out on the person who is 100%

Its a tough call & one that only you can decide but I think in your heart you already know the answer :(

[I-say]

Jay, you know, this relationship has taken me down, and years ago, I would never ever of taken this rubbish that I am taking now. Am more insecure, due to marriage breakup etc. My boyfriend could not ask for a more lovely person than me. His ex wife had an affair that ended their marriage. And i always said to him, that i would never hurt him. I didnt. But seems to think it Ok to hurt me (why) ?

[I-say]

Jo, what you say is totally right... I am staying with this man, I do love him though. making that break is scary. I am scared of being on my own. But in saying that....to myself honestly....he is not scared. Moving away without me, does not seem to bother him at all..... Why are men such sh*ts!

[I-say]

Thankyou both for your help. I really appreciate it xx

[jay90]

take it easy i-say....speak soon x

[raysparx1]

Hi I-say

I think the best thing you can do is dump him,he is just using you,don't sound like he loves you at all,it is just a habit, get rid of him and find somebody that loves you,
If he cared about you and your feelings he would show you he cared,he is a joke,not you,you summed him up yourself,an uncaring pig,

Hope you find someone that does care, Ray

[PinkFizz]

he sounds a total sh*t!!

[nat_84]

That makes him an uncaring pig. A woman has needs too!!

I woke my boyfriend up at 3am this morning coz i couldnt sleep...;0)

[I-say]

Thanks Ray for your reply....today I dumped him. And guess what? He wasnt bothered....

Says a lot about me huh! xx

[raysparx1]

Hi I-say,

You allways come across to me as a lovely girl,sorry for you cos your probably a bit sad today,but you are worth so much more than that,you will find someone that loves you and treats you with the respect you deserve,just look forward now,forget him,he's not worth remembering,
good luck,hope you find happiness soon,take care, Ray xxx

[Slooow_Jo]

I-say how are you doing now??