give it another go?

[steve208]

I am very tempted to try to make a go of things with an ex girlfriend of mine. We get on good its just the distanc eand some issues i have with my depression that got in the way before.

We text each other lots everyday ive not seen her for a few months and am off work for a couple of weeks so am thinking of going up to see her. We keep talking about going places together etc but neither of us have much money.
random semi related question ....would she like it if i bought her flowers and some new shoes?!

[dot.hawkes]

lol, what sort of shoes? What colour? what size is she?

[laurence2]

steve, i don't no about the new shoes? but flowers why not, distance is no barrier tho seeing you both don't have much money i can see where your coming from.

Just get togeather and take things one step at a time, talking will cost you nothing, if the spark is their who needs places to go?

If it feels right, give it a shot

All the best to you both

[steve208]

why lol? and interestin how u answered the shoe bit first.

well she seems to like some boots that she has and cant imagine she would want stiletoes.

dont know what size she is but found some nice sequine black boots on tinternet and would go nice with a purple or black dress that i have seen too. i love buying clothers for women.

[Metz]

if the distance and issues are still there and if that's what broke you up ...i would find someone else,you can always stay mates with her :o)
I would buy her some flowers,cheaper than shoes ;o)

[dot.hawkes]

sequined black boots? right, sequined? Black boots? And these black boots had sequins on? on the boots?

[mccfluff]

lol Dot i was thinking the same

[mccfluff]

flowers would be just fine steve

[dot.hawkes]

Sequins?

[steve208]

so these boots would be good? and dont think they cost that much are in the sale.

Anyway will see what she is up to next weekend and if i am able to go up there.

Im rather inclinded to stay in contact but not try to get together again as i am trying to sort a lot of things wit my life out atm and dont want to put her through a lot of emotional ups and downs that she doesnt need.

i know she like sme a lot but i am not as mad for her as she is for me. tho tis also a general thing that i try not to get to mad for a girl too soon as has ended when ive done it before.

[dot.hawkes]

No Steve i am not convinced on the boots, you say they were black? And they had sequins on? Was the store called shu? Just a guess it does sound like one of their designs,

[Metz]

sort yourself out first :o)
Stick with flowers too !

[steve208]

i dunno dot twas on little woods website.

think this is the link.

http://www.littlewoods-online.com/rf/navigatio n/product.do?Ns=prod_in_stock%7C1%7C%7Cprice_e st%7C0%7C%7Cprod_min_base_price%7C0%7C%7Cscu_i d%7C1&Nao=48&groupId=301145127&Nu=this_product &SNtk=&Np=1&SN=151+4294947529+4294964402&Ntt=3 01145127&D=301145127&Ntk=group_search&Dx=mode% 2Bmatchall&thisprod=300728914&N=151+4294947529 [phone]&Nty=1&Mis_item_id=15&Mis_item_loc_ id=1&product=300728914

[Metz]

they are studs .. bit pricey!! Flowers are cheaper..it's the thought that counts!! IMO :o)

[steve208]

ok well RE geting myself sorted. erm dont think the distance will stop being a problem even if i sort my life out. she has just bought a house where she lives so will be there a while paying for it.

id like to meet someone else as me and her didnt click on an emotional level that much but i do like her and think sometimes i am not prepared to give things a chance and maybe they could be good.

[dot.hawkes]

They won't be real suede at �45 but they are cheap and cheeful . They will need re-heeling after one or two wears tho.

[steve208]

after one or two wears....blumin heck.

[stephyker]

Steve, I have been in a similar situtation. Me and the ex broke up because of the distance. He was the one who couldn't deal with it so we broke up. Afterwards, he still text me all the time saying all the miss you and love you stuff. Confusing!!! My suggestion is... don't get back together, unless you both are pretty sure you are willing to put the effort in. I wish you good luck!

And the present thing.. I know I would prefer something more meaningful than flowers. Something that will make her think you really thought about it. And no, it doesn't have to be shoes, knowing my fashion taste, its a knife edge of what I like and don't like.

[sue11]

Dot, you seem awfully worried about those boots(!!) but I am sure that the advice you gave will be much appreciated by Steve!! I found it worth reading!!
My pennies worth Steve, is that you may be finding that your ex seems more attractive because you are no longer with her (I don't mean attractive as in looks wise) you know the usual I want what I don't have thingy, and for this reason I would be very careful, especially as you have already said that she seems keener on you than you are on her. Also I tend to find that when people split, they normally do it for a reason and if that reason is not resolved then there is a good chance that you will simply split up again. Good luck anyway!

[country_boy]

I got back with an ex and it was a mistake - we didn't really have the chemistry/click. Was comfortable and that was what I missed, didn't last long after we got back together. Things happened for a reason the first time round. You'll probably find the same problems are still there, and I don't mean the distance. Good luck either way.