Should I stop contact?

[Amiira]

I posted a question on here Sat night about my non stop crying when my boyfriend came over to say goodbye before he left to work and live away. (I stopped crying on Sunday!) Pathetic!!!

Anyway on his leaving he promised me he would make an effort (as he doenst want to loose me!) , text, or ring. But its only Wednesday, and he has made b*gger all effort. Only replies if I text, and sometime doesnt even bother replying. Giving me some excuse, that he has been busy. Which he may have been, but I think he has just been out with his brother who he is living with.

So now I look like some maniac!

What shall I do? Just forget him?

My apologies for going on and on about this. But I really am confused.

[Amiira]

How do I do that Suzy?

He is so caught up with living with his brother, finding out places to socialise, and his new job.

I dont think he would even notice that I havent contacted him.

Oh, and he still has not replied to my offer of talking tonight on the phone! That says it all I guess

[Suzyboo]

Agree absolutely with Briar_x though - it isn't our decision, only you are able to do that and to know what is best for you at this time. Was just trying to give the objective viewpoint because you seemed to need to hear it but did not mean to sound harsh or like this is an easy decision

[Briar_x]

Not sure oyu can put too much emphisis on your own happiness. If you don't look out for it no one else will. (I'm with you on that one all the way!!

[Suzyboo]

I was suggesting that instead of waiting for him to notice, tell him it's over and you don't want to stay in contact

[Amiira]

Suzy and Briar, I know what I feel inside. But me asking on here, shows its a big problem with me.

And I know what I should do. Dont contact him. But I dont think he would notice.

I just hate the fact that I have wasted so much of my life with him. The Pig

Thank you so much for your help and advice xx

[Suzyboo]

It isn't a waste of time if it helps you to grow into a stronger person in the future. All of life is about experiences you can learn from - the good and the bad. Good luck finding peace of mind over this whatever happens

[Amiira]

Thanks Suzy xx

[Briar_x]

I second everything Suzy has said.

In fact I shall now use Suzy as my mouthpiece in this thread :D (hope you don't mind Suzy)

[lilacben]

Hi Amiiira, Everything has been said by the others so I will not repeat.Just one thing though could you not write to him, explain everything you feel and want from your relationship together and ask for his honest reply. Tell him not to leave you hanging on as you need to get on with your life.You have both put three years of your lives into this so he owes you that if nothing else. Also why did he decide to move away?Keep strong and start getting out and about with your friends. I just hope you havent given up all your friends for this man. May I ask how old you both are.? Take care of yourself dont let this make you ill. alwas hear to listen. love Brenda xx