add on to my predicament (low libido from yesterday)

[ingram]

i posed a question yesterday about my partners lack of libido,(thanks for all your answers)

got a few differant responses from you all,and now wondering about your response to this question,do u think my partner is being selfish when it comes to oral sex its always me that goes down on him ,he never makes an attempt to pleasure me this way.
we have talked about all aspects of sex but he's just not that intersted.i'm a hot bloodied woman .who needs to feel desired.

[B00]

Well in all fairness, if he doesnt want to, he doesnt want to! Aint a whole lot you can do about it i'm afraid, especially if even after talking about it he's still reluctant. And also even if he does do it would you be comfortable knowing he's probably doing it under sufference?

[mnko]

love going down on my wife making her scream with pleasure just with my tongue. she's not so keep on giving me oral but does a little. Your husband dont know what hes missing

[noxlumos]

Sexually you are obviously incompatible, so you can
a. Put up with it
b. Try to get him to take more of an interest
c. See if he minds if you have an affair
d. Have an affair anyway
e. Leave and try your luck elsewhere

Most of those suggestions will be non starters but I'm not kidding when I say that I think you might be better apart if you are so fundamentally incompatible. He just sounds as though he's not interested in sex full stop, which to be honest is an almost insurmountable problem.
I've had women who don't like oral sex and women who love it ( both giving and recieving), we're all different but if he's just un-sexual in all regards then you might find it's time to call it a day.

[he who dares]

oral sex is not everyones cup of tea

[fee-is-me]

But it really CAN be with the right person.

[BigBishop]

maybe theres a hygiene issue?

[ingram]

there is nothing wrong with my hygine Big bishop ,i make sure i give my sweet meats a good scrub.

[BigBishop]

In that case he should worship the gash.

[Pippa68]

After reading your first post, and now this one, I think the issue here may be a confidence problem.

You are the one who initiates sex, you are the one to give oral sex...he may feel inadequate, that he isn't good enough in that department?

Mr P was very reluctant regarding giving oral sex ~ I didn't ask him why, but as he had been in a very non communicative marriage before & his wife rejected him sexually & emotionally I eventually took the reins and told him that he was wonderful and shook my bones when we had sex. He soon became more confident & nowadays we rarely have sex without him pleasuring me in that department...he has certainly got so much better with practice, too :o)