To old to party

[lastchance]

I have just been out with my friends, but at the same time so was my eldest daughter who is eighteen, it felt really wierd meeting in the same pubs etc. Do you think I should stay in when i know she will be out? I don't want to be an embarrassment for her.

[missmoore]

you are never too old to party. it sounds harsh, but if she's really embarrassed, she'll go to another pub!

[Lore]

Not at all!! you should go out with your friends and enjoy yourself, if you happen to bump into each other then so be it. as mentioned above, if your daughter has a problem with it then she'll more than likely move onto another place.

[maggie01]

I wouldn't stay in, but perhaps you could ask each other where you intend to go. That way you can both enjoy your evening out.

[lastchance]

Thanks your right, just there isn't much choice of pubs for her to move onto, I will ask her when she gets up!

[samuel23]

Get out there and enjoy yourself!!! A pub is short for 'public house' so you shouldn't feel embarrassed that she is there. If she isn't happy about bumping into you she'll move on. Alternatively, why not do the following - you both make a list of your fav places, any that are duplicated agree on a rota system for visiting. I know that takes away a bit of the spontaneity but would it hurt that much to agree before going out? If you like clubbing there are usually over 21s over 25s and over 30s club nights that your daughter shouldn't be able to go to.
However, If you are turning up at a rave, or going clubbing at young persons clubs, or dressing up like a fashion struck teenager then I would suggest (for the sake of keeping the peace) that you try and go to places where you aren't likely to bump into your daughter. I'm lucky - my sons and daughters don't mind bumping into me when we're all out ~ but I suspect that has more to do with the fact that they'll be hoping for a handout. Ahh what it is to be a parent LOL

[Hellion]

It seems to me that a lot of teenagers are pretty cool with about being out where their parents are. My husband plays in a band and I'm always amazed how many teens come along with their parents.
Parents ain't what they used to be - they're cool!

[lastchance]

This is part of the embarrassment, her friends male and female think I'm cool! and I think she she's sick of the old liners...what really that's your mum, no!
I don't mean that in a bigheaded way, I don't think I look so young, just others say so.... I don't do anything to try to be cool, I don't dance much, I don't smoke anything, I don't dress in Topshop and i don't wear much slap!

[noxlumos]

I often go to the same places as my sons or ot the same clubs with my sons and their mates and as far as I know they don't have a problem, at least they keep asking me to go, so I doubt your daughter minds you going out.