Wedding Ideas!!!

[Tiny E. A]

'My partner and i have been togther for 7 years (although we do not live together), and all of a sudden he asked me to marry him!! I'm so excited as he said he'd never marry again, and ceratinly not me.

I would like to marry in a castle, I have recently inherited a massive amount of money and so money is not an object. My partner has suggested we open a bank account together so that this will be easier. He has also applied for a passport recently, I'm asuming so we can marry abroad.

So other than a wedding abroad or in a castle I really have no clue at all what to do! Any suggestions from you happily marrieds out there?

[Taz70]

I really hate to be pessimistic here, but have you thought about why he has suddenly proposed after 7 years together.

It just seems that he was commitment phobic before (not even living together) and now you have inherited a massive amount of money he's popping the question. Also suggesting that you open a joint bank account.

Maybe I'm being too suspicious, but I would seriously think about the reason behind the sudden proposal.

Perhaps you could get some legal advice on pre-nups etc. just to cover yourself in case it all turns sour.

Really don't want to rain on your parade and a castle wedding sounds brill. I've been happily married myself for 15 years, but please think about it seriously after the excitement dies down a little. Good luck!

[Sammy Snake]

Hell' never marry again and certainly not you! That's charming!

Has his change of mind about marriage come about since you inherited loads of money by any chance?

Are you sure he doesn't want a joint account so he can take your dosh and then grab a flight to Rio with his new passport?

Sorry for being so cynical but it sounds very dodgy to me. I would make sure that I kept my money in an account in my sole name (that he has no access to).

Good luck with the wedding anyway, personally I would get married abroad on a beach somewhere hot!

[PinkFizz]

Taz70 - you beatme to it - I was going to say exactly the same thing! I hope that we are wrong,and that you indeed have a fantastic wedding,but could I please just ask how long after inheriting this money did he propose??

[redcrx]

Tiny,
before I answer can you tell me why youd want to marry this guy? Why not just write him a large cheque?

[redcrx]

I think this is just a big wind-up folks. Whats the mention of a joint account got to do with making a wedding easier.

[~Wingnut~]

With you there redcrx, I was going to reply too but think it is a wind-up.

[babyC]

This is a wind up.

"He never wanted to marry me"
"I've recently inherited a massive sum of money"
"He wants to set up a joint account"
"He's applied for a passport".

You work it out. Surely no-one's that dense?

[Pea Pod]

Which Mills and Boon book did you get this from

[Taz70]

God! Don't we all sound like shrivelled up man-haters? Nothing could be further from the truth, but it's definitely got a dodgy feel to it.

Definitely don't open a joint account and definitely opt for legal advice regarding your inheritance.

Other than that, if you want to go ahead and marry somebody that said he'd never marry you, that's up to you, but reading between the lines, I think the dosh is the real attraction. Sorry!

If he hasn't committed to you in 7 years, why not go and blow the lot on a gorgeous toyboy instead, lol.

[PinkFizz]

And I was tring to be helpful! FFS!!

[redcrx]

Taz, no man-hating here. Just not so keen on wind-ups. I really think youre wasting your breath with the advice for Tiny

[Taz70]

I must be really thick, but I imagined some poor cow out there, seeking reassurance - doh!

Gotta be a wind-up looking at it now. Are you winding us up Tiny E. A? If so, have you got nothing better to do?

[redcrx]

Pink, of course you were helpful. And Im sure had it been a genuine question then it would have helped. I really cant see it is tho, too much pointless info that doesnt relate to marriage just points to a gold digger.

[redcrx]

Taz, youre not thick, you thought you were helping someone.

[Taz70]

Thanks for that redcrx. I feel highly intelligent now, LOL

[crilly2k]

RUNAWAY leave him,this is probably a wind up as usual

[redcrx]

lol, glad i could help Taz :)

Tiny has gone very quiet, surely she must have something to say

[~Wingnut~]

Yes don't feel bad Pink and Taz! There's only one person who should feel a numbnut!!
You gave very good advice like Red said. Obviously someone stayed home from school today!!

[Tiny E. A]

Hi guys, really sorry that everyone thinks this is a wind up, but it genuinely isn�t. I guess I just wanted to hear someone else say this man is an opportunist, before I could actually admit it to myself. Obviously all the signs point to this with the money and all, but when you're actually in a relationship with a man you love it's difficult to see that he's a gold digger. Thanks Taz and pink for the advice, and thanks to everone else as well who've made me wake up and smell the coffee (long overdue i think my friends and family would agree!) - so even though u cynics out there were wrong ( and yes i suppose i really am that dense!) i still appreciate your responses.

[capper1985]

I had a similar thing happen to me, my girlfriend of 4 years proposed on valentines day, I said yes(even though i had doubts) and we set a date for July (just gone)

We were due to be married in a church and all our friends were there...it was wonderful!

until..she walked down the aisle and realised the vicar was the same vicar who had molested her 15 years previously!

I flew into a rage and punched him to the floor, we had to get the wedding re-arranged!

We are due to wed on boxing day, this time not in a church..

this time we are due to be married abroad, only thing is, my fiance has only book one-way tickets!!!

does she have something sinister in store for me?

I know how you are feeling with your doubts 'Tiny E. A' ..

are people really that horrible that they think you would make it up?