Domestic abuse...

[whiskeysheri]

What, to you, constitutes domestic abuse?

TIA x

[kick3m0n]

Violence of any sort imho is domestic abuse, as is psychological abuse ie shouting at, fighting with, demeaning, repressing, constantly criticising, belittling, threatening - all when done consistently over a period of time where one party is nearly always the agressor (ie not just the usual spats all couples have) is domestic abuse. Watched my mother put up with all that and more at the hands of my alcoholic father, wished she would leave him and thank god, when he began to raise his hands to her, she got out.

[China Doll]

Pretty much as Kick says sweetpea. Domestic abuse can be psychological or physical. Anything that threatens you mentally or physically and is done by someone you're living with on a consistant basis constitutes domestic abuse as far as I'm concerned. xx

[stylinsam]

i agree with kick,good question!

[kick3m0n]

not to be too chatty on a serious thread but hiya ladies, hope you are all well and happy :o)) xxxx

[raysparx1]

Hi whiskey,

Hope you are well, kick has pretty much got it spot on, I would say to any Lady,if a man (well so called man) raises his hand to you,get out ,stay out, never go back,it will happen again no matter how sorry he says he is, take care, Ray xx

[mccfluff]

I totally agree with Kick esp the psychological part

[stylinsam]

im good and happy too !!!!!! ;o)

[fms]

any type of violence really however its rarely noticed till its too late unfortunately

[crete]

womens aid will have a web site you could visit which im sure would be informative to you .

[fms]

yeh but what about the guys that are abused??

[crete]

fms you have a valid point female to male domestic abuse does occur but i believe the latest figures are approx 97 per cent of domestic abuse is committed by males to females there are support groups available for males who are being abused.

[fms]

its always taught from child hood that boys are never allowed to hit girls but not vice versa even i tell my boy that under no curcumstance is he ever to hit a girl but is it felt that its ok for a girl to hit a guy so she is able to stand up for herself i think so

[wonderwoman1]

hiya whiskey hunni, i agree with kick, its any sort of physical or mental abuse. Been there and got 2 t-shirts!!!

take care xx

[-Zorro-]

I hope you havent been suffering domstic abuse, CB...if so..let me at him ...I'll kick his teeth out.

[-Zorro-]

forgot to add kisses, CB

xxx

[robbo82]

Ditto Zorro. Hope you're ok hun.xx

[RATTER15]

I'm a male who has suffered from this abuse from my ex wife although to a small degree. It is every part as distressing and humiliating as male to a Woman, though very different.
Mine came about from my wife being a very volatile Woman, one word or action out of place and suddenly all hell was unleashed, She had drawn blood on many occasions until I left nearly three years ago now.

My problem was I was always afraid that by restraining her she could have got hurt, she went into such a frenzy that you would not restrain her by holding her wrists etc, it could have just caused her injury and the resulting injury is a thing I could not cope with, knowing that it was my hands that had bruised her arms, made her fall over maybe, all manor of things can go wrong when restraining someone.

I would then have to face days of her not speaking to me etc, she would always accuse me of not discussing things with her and when I tried to discuss things, she didn't want to talk about it.

The last time she didn't want to talk about it was enough for me to leave, I packed my bags jumped in my camper van and a few hours later I found myself in a lay by on a French motorway heading for Portugal. I came home the same day lol after talking to my aged Mum and my lovely Sister.

I know have the most caring and delightful partner and love her to bits, so all turned out well in the end.

Men and Women need to make theirselves heard in these situations, mine was a very mild abuse compared to what many Women and Men go through every single day, the emotional damage caused by domestic abuse can often be worse than the physical abuse, either way there is help out there for anybody that needs it.

[raysparx1]

Zorro, have you heard from whiskey ? I sent her an e-mail but she hasn't replied, Ray

[crete]

ratter for once im not joking thanks for sharing your experience it must not have been an easy thing to do unlike you im not such an open person but thanks .

[-Zorro-]

NO Ray, she has not been on the thread since.

It may be someone she knows whos suffered, not necessarily her. Lets hope so.

I'll email her anyway.