fallen out of love

[generationga]

iv been with my woman for 4 years recently i finished with her as i dont feel any way about her,she feels ive treated her badly in the past,but she just tended to bring the worst out in me,we have a daughter together,and i tryed to stay with her for the babys sake,but with the stress of trying to run my own company(working with unhelpfull people)it just became too much we had an argument and i told her how i REALLY felt about her and it wasnt pleasent,you know my feelings being neither here nor there about her,i dont get on with her family and she has kids from a previous relationship,but now aafter a few days im not sure what to do as i miss her

[atolhurst]

Having been with her for so long, it might just be the habit/routine of having her around?

If your feelings are 'neither here nor there', I think you've just got to get used to being on your own. It'll take some time but better in the long run.

[ummmm]

I've got my own issues at the moment. My partner and I have been apart for 2 1/2 weeks now. We are getting on better than ever. Sometimes it's good to be apart so you can work on your problems properly without the day to day stresses. All I can advise is to keep in touch on a daily basis to check on each other and make a promise to yourself and each other that there will be no arguing. Once the arguing has gone you can talk more rationally. Best of luck x

[888sally888]

Time out I am sure will help you decide. All I know is that it never works if you stay with someone unless its for love.

Guilt, lonliness or habit are not good enough reasons. And your daughter will always have you both so thats the most important thing.

Good luck - be strong.

[fawna]

What have the kids from the previous relationship got to do with it? I assume she had them 4 years ago when you first got together. If you spoke unkindly about the fact that she has these children I hope she has the strength to resist you if you do decide you want to get back with her.

[w.h.y.?]

you should do whats best for everey one,i know that may sound vauge but deep down you know what it is you should do,do her children look up to you?are youlettting them down?when you got into this relationship you took them on think of everyone and stop beingso selfish.