Blast from the past

[dantheman123]

I was with a girl for 9 years until she emigrated to Australia in March 2004. I have missed her every day since then. Now 2.5 years later her mum tells me she is coming back to England because she is homesick. Even though I have missed her so much I dont want to see her because it will stir up so much emotion in me. Should I try to be just friends or try to start up where we left off or just forget about her and get on with my life?

[WaldoMcFroog]

I think you've got to start from the position that anyone who goes to Australia and leaves their partner behind, probably doesn't feel the same way as the one who has been in mourning ever since they left.

However, bear that in mind, and you can always test the water to see how things are between you. It's not foolish to try again once, just if you keep doing it.

[Pea Pod]

Has she written or got in touch with you in those 2.5 years. If not I would put it in the past.

[filthiestfis]

I she hasnt bothered to contact you since she left, its time for her to get in touch if she is interested in being friends again.

[trevHCS]

I'd be very careful about jumping straight back in there and trying to get things going again as if she doesn't want that then not only are you going to feel rejected, but all the nice feelings you've got about her could come crashing down too.

Might be best to see if she contacts you again as it'll be quite a jump for her coming back to the UK for starters which might take some getting over initially. However she might want to be friends as at least you provide a level of stability from her old life. Then you never know...