Own way?

[Bowieblue]

My partner wants me to stay over at his house regularly, sometimes I can't do this because of other committments e.g. my 17 yr old daughter, just ordinary stuff like daily housework (I also work full time). He seems to get the hump when things don't go his way. Advise on how to deal with this please.

[maggie01]

What about him staying at yours?

[4getmenot]

Tell him to grow up. Things cant always go his way. Say if he really needs to spend time with you suggest staying at yours. If he says he cant then no fault of his own. You have a life too.

[fawna]

Tell him you prefer being with your teenage daughter because she sulks less!

Seriously, it sounds like he's being quite selfish but maybe he just doesn't realise the extent of your commitments. Try explaining it to him.

[PinkFizz]

Have you two been together long??Sounds as though he may be a bit jeaous of your daughter.

[cascarelli]

I'd have thought he should be spending more time round your place, or at least an equal amount of time.

Does he get on with your daughter or maybe he feels intimidated or a bit awkward with her around?

If he generally gets the hump just cos he doesnt get his own way then, as 4getmenot says, he needs to grow up!

[B00]

I hate to disagree with everyone here...but.....

your partner obviously loves you and wants to spend time with you, and i fail to see why a 17 year old almost adult daughter and a bit of dusting should get in the way...............

[steviep165]

yup, my first reaction was the same as B00's. unless there's an underlying reason why he wont stay at yours (not getting on with your daughter for eg) then i would have thought you should feeel flattered.
open a bottle of wine and snuggle up on the settee and talk about it.

[Pisceangirl]

Relationships are about give and take, so if you feel as though you're always the one making it over to his I can see why you're frustrated! Boo & Stevie, I know what you mean but to be honest I thought this with my ex boyfriend for a while...then I carried on doing other things his way...then he NEVER came to mine or travelled to meet ME...eventually he started to control other aspects of my life. First it was "oh i don't want to go out with you & all your friends let's just stay at mine", then "Why don't we get a chinese AGAIN!!!" on my naffing birthday even though I wanted Indian! Then "I don't like you wearing that", "I don't like you seeing your that particular friend", I know these seems like petty things but to me they are stark signs of a controlling personality who has to have their own way and doesn't know what compromise is or even what a healthy relationship is! Sorry if this seems like I'm generalising- really not- just saying what it reminds ME of and what I surrmise to be the symptom of a more problematic issue. Talk to him, try and get him to compromise just a little, if he carries on and you notice other things he's controlling then have a long think. Relationships are about give AND take, if you keep giving without receiving you may find yourself exhausted. :)