jelousy

[stylinsam]

does jealousy take a place in your and your partners relationship, if so who is the biggest green eyed monster out of the two of you???

[nat_84]

Hey Sam,

me, i admit it - i am one jealous b!tch.

[flipflop104]

She used to be really bad when we first started out 7 years ago but now we've switched and she's not jealous at all (dunno if that's a compliment or not) and I'm the more jealous one (relatively -although not as bad as she used to be lol)

[noxlumos]

No, neither of us is jealous at all. Life's too short to be with someone you don't trust 100%, and if you trust them 100% then there's no reason to be jealous.
She goes off filming for months on end sometimes with men far more attractive than I am, and I go clubbing until 4.00am quite often and I can honestly say we've never had a misword about jealousy ( plenty of other things but never jealousy).

[netibiza]

No, no jealousy in my 34 yr relationship I honestly can't understand such a feeling, but I have friends who really suffer from it, and it's such a waste of emotions.

[raysparx1]

Hi sam,

I agree 100% with nox, blimey if my mrs was jealous, she would have pulled my nuts off after the things I have said on here, she comes on A/B so she can look anytime she wants, but neither of us is jealous, take care sammi xx

[chazza]

With previous bfs I was but I feel so secure in my current relationship that I don't get jealous and neither does he!

[spk]

I can have horrendous jealous streaks but its starting to calm down as I get older though. My ex and I used to have riots based around jealousy its a horrible feeling. Very difficult to control

[roomster]

I used to be, i think it depends who your with. Me and my boyfriend have no reason to be jealous.

[liquidspace]

Yes I am jealous when my bf goes out, I think it shows how much you care for them or how insecure you are in the relationship to feel like that. I never used to be jealous when I was married to my ex husband at all but he was of me. Now with this bf, he is not in the least bit jealous and I kind of worry that he should be!

[PinkFizz]

I am a very jealous person,though I have no idea why,and I never tell him that I am or even comment if he mentions women in passing ie women at work etc.Its not his prob;lem .its mine and I am trying very very hard to overcome this.

On the other hand he isnt jealous in the slightest.

[shaneystar2]

Jealousy can be a very destructive emotion .In nearly 35 years of marriage I can quite honestly say I have never felt any jealousy or mistrust of Mr S and the feeling is mutual.I can't be doing with things like that.

[spurslady]

I would have to say the same as nat_84

I am the one that flirts the most though, double standards I suppose.

[teag1rl]

jelaousy is evil. what everyone has said is right, it's so destructive and you cant just 'snap out of it' it's a horrible feeling. Erm, but I dont have a partner (nothing to do with being a jealous b1thc!!), so cant comment on your Q sam!

[tiger104]

I'm crap, very jealous and can't help it, i'm trying to overcome it, but its a previous relationship thats made me this way....Its on my mind lots of time...

But in my own mind I know I have no reason to be....

However he rarely is just now and again maybe...its one, and I say one, of the worst feelings in the world apart from the other obvious more important things

[nat_84]

i have mega double-standards too spurslady!

us women eh ;oP

[nat_84]

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Q uestion272363.html

gives u some idea of how jealous i am :o(

[spurslady]

Bless you Nat I could honestly say I would have reacted in the same way as you when I read your question then.

I know my Boyf wont cheat but my insecurities stem from my dad being a total T**t having lots of extra marital affairs etc and being a total **** before mum divorced him, I grew up with that and it is really hard to shake off and remember that not all men are total B******s like him.

I am working on it I am a lot better than I used to be, but it takes time.

(I censored my own message for answer bank)

[nat_84]

we have a lot in common considering you're a *** and im a gooner!

My dad is/was the same as urs - except my mum hasnt divorced him - just asked him to move out.

Everything u said, i think and feel exactly the same, the insecurities, the hating men etc etc etc.

[nat_84]

the bit they crossed off was referring to u supporting spurs by the way- rhymes with "kid".....starts with a y. ;oP

[spurslady]

I know the nickname you mean they chant it at the lane. Im not jewish though and im not part of the firm so it doesnt apply to me.