Dating again...

[lostaddict]

My wife and I have been going through the process of seperating over the last 3 months, and I am due to move into my own accommodation in the next few weeks.
We remain close but the spark has long gone and we are more like best friends than lovers, hence the seperation.
I do not want to come across as cold but I have noticed an attraction between myself and someone known to both my wife and I and am unsure how to move forward with it?
I am not looking for anything serious but the last six months have been quite lonely and emotionally draining and I feel due a bit of fun or a few dates at least. Is it too soon? Please help!

[spk]

you are the only judge of whether its too soon or not, its up to yourself. A couple of dates would give you a better indication. Would your ex be unhappy about you seeing this new person?

[divegirl]

Hi, you may well feel in need of some fun.....but PLEASE stay away form any exsisting friends! If you feel that the time is right to make new friendships/relationships, go ahead, but there are plenty of women out there that are not associated with your past. Although my own situation is different from yours, my partner left me and I was devastated, three years down the line, just I was starting to 'get a life' he became engaged to a mutual friend.... and it has been nothing short of hell, for me and for our children....but that's me. Also if this lady is a friend of your wife's she will most probably feel uncomfortable with the situation and if she isn't......maybe not such a good friend!

Lisa x

[lilyfrog]

I think by the fact you are asking you know that taking things further with this woman is wrong. Sorry, but you would be better off finding someone new.

good luck x

[Pippa68]

I know of someone who was engaged to a guy, had a baby, then after breaking up with him moved in with his brother ~ they married and had kids.

While their families had no problems with it, I certainly would. No matter how 'over' the relationship I was...my view is that you don't sh1t on your own doorstep ;o)

It may work for you, it may not..only time would tell!

[lostaddict]

Thanks for the advice. The lady in question isn't a close friend but the complications are becoming clearer the more I think about it.
Perhaps it is too convenient...

[suzi-q]

Is this person close to your wife and is it likely to cause bad feeling?

Its always a strange feeling to know your ex is dating again but if it was a friend of mine I think it may be a bit hard to take?

I don't think its too early to date as long as you don't let yourself get in too deep too soon as you will be vulnerable at the moment.

[missprim]

I think this is a really serious problem that you have and perhaps someone else who has been through the same thing, might tell you the outcome of their experience, but we all react differently, and because you and your wife have remained friends and don't actually hate each other, it might be difficult for her to accept you wanting to have fun and dates, unless this is what she wants for herself too.Also, you didn't say if you have children as I think this complicates matters even more.Anyway, I hope you can both move forward and I wish you good luck.

[butternut]

I think this is sad but true of all relationships we want what we cant have we get it and yawn, move on, this is really sad but true