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[murphy~]

how do i say get it across that i'm not interested? ok tonight i went to meet a 'friend' turns out he wants more than friendship, so left him and went out with my gf, met a guy who i thought was a friend and well he's not, how do i deal with this i just want to be mates, nothing more, and before you ask i don't flirt ect with them

[country_boy]

Just say "dream on Casanova, not even if you were the last man on Earth!" - or do the: there's no such thing as platonic debate! Tis a full moon tonight so take it in your stride!

[murphy~]

oh hell is the full moon thing, my gf mentioned that and said it has a lot to do with the guys having the equivilent of pmt? not sure myself

[country_boy]

Avoid til next week - will be easier then I reckon! Also a certain amount of growing up needed on your "friend's" part. any good cures for hiccups while i'm on?

[murphy~]

yep if you read the ignoble awards stick your finger up your rectum, app that works!

[SC00BY]

Do you mean g/f as in same sex g/f. I am a gay women, and have the same problem. (actually this will work if you are straight) Say I wil sleep with a man if you do!!

[andy-hughes]

It takes a certain kind of guy to make a good platonic friend.

What the guy must know is, the reasn why you are so close as friends is because you are not a couple. That does not translate into - because we are so close, why don't we become a couple? Sadly, a lot of guys don't realise that simple fact, they try to 'move' the friendship on you a different level.

How do you avoid this? Watch for the signs. Is he appearing jelous about someone you are seeing / talking about? Is he getting possessive about your time with other people? Is he moaning about being single? All these may mean he is about to try 'the move'.

Your response? Underline the value of your friendship, because it is a frienship, and it wouldn't work any other way. If he is receptive, he will understamd what is being said, and back off, if not, then you may loose your friend because he will step over the line, and you may not be able to step back.

From a man's perspecitive, almost all my closest friends are women, and I'd go with any of them in a heartbeat BUT I am very very careful to never ever let them see that, and to know that we are friends, and going to stay that way, and I'm not going to spoil it.

[SC00BY]

Excellent advice from Andy again.

[murphy~]

thanks Andy, we've (the first guy) had a bit of a heart to heart this morn and i've made it very clear that its never going to happen, thankfully he seems to have accepted this and we are still mates, guess time will tell as for the other one, i'm going to avoid him!

Scooby no i'm straight girlf friend just as in a friend i go out with, thanks anyway xx