Can a man and a woman just be friends without the big S word getting in the way?

[counsellor]

What's the general opionion on this?

[dot.hawkes]

well possibly, but as far as i am concerned, if they don't Shop they ain't worth me time.

[joby1]

I cant speak to my hubby without thinking of the Sh!t hes caused me!

[Eve]

I've got loads of male friends, many of them it's purely platonic and would never be anything else.

I've had male friends with crushes on me and vice versa but after talking it through we've been honest and sorted things out and continued a great friendship.

[counsellor]

my seniments exactly jenna , am just worried my hubby wouldnt see it that way!

[tomtech]

i think if you are both adult enough and have lived through most of lifes ups and downs then yes,you can watch the S apranos. its a good true to life program.

[bird_81]

I've had a really good bloke mate for about 7 years and it's been great. Never been anything sexual, just get a different opinion on stuff, Always good to get two sides to things.

[BuckyKat]

I think it depends on the context, I have friends of the opposite sex at work and its fine, but outside of work I don't think it happens, if you're close or friendly seems to me they're always planning on being that shoulder to cry on...or that nothing better to do on a saturday night thing ... cynic ... me.. no :o)

[-Zorro-]

no ...the ........sanitation word gets in the way

[Katie~77]

My best friend is male. Nothing has ever "gone on" between us. My husband reckons that men are always after one thing and gets quite jealous of the relationship that me and my friend have.x

[counsellor]

Not quite the S word i was thinking of Zorro but hey what ever floats your boat :)

[counsellor]

Katie the 77 is that the year you were born... if so me too. do you think its a end of twentys thing we all go through as many of my friends my age are too? x

[-Zorro-]

Katie...if we were best friends [edited by ABED]

[Katie~77]

Counsellor, yes, born in 1977. You are probably right, it's an age thing.
Zorro, damn right we would!!!x

[Carakeel]

Absolutely YES! My 2nd closest friend in life (my partner is No.1 and more!) is a young man I have known for nearly 25 years now. I met him when he was only 15 years of age and already a brilliant musician/actor/singer. We immediately became best friends despite my being 18 years older than him. I was the only person with him when he graduated, have seen him through a marriage and a divorce, have always tried to help him achieve his goals and he has always been there for me in happy times as well as traumatic times. He was also a great friend and inspiration to my son who died and helped me to start him off on the guitar. We used to go to all manor of concerts together (everything from heavy metal, rock, jazz etc. to classical), have traveled together, cooked together etc. We have always been able to talk to each other about absolutely anything. He has just recently remarried and his new young wife and I are also very close which is so nice. Sadly though I no longer live in the same country so we don't see each other as often as we would like. But he is still like a younger brother to me and considers me a part of his family. My family sees him as a part of ours and I am sure this deep friendship will last forever.

[counsellor]

Ahh that's lovely , so good to know..... Country's no distance for best friends though....... x

[Orangesauce1]

Yes... unless there is an attraction

[counsellor]

what if there was a slight attraction but you didnt want anything to come of it but you wanted to be friends?

[Lonnie]

Girls, your hubby/partner, probably fancies most of your neighbours/friends wives/girlfriends, its the way of the world, the only real reason he doesn't stray, is because he values what he's got, You,, but its in his genes.

In answer to your question, in the most part, NO.

[yoyoyomz19]

Of course you can! Just because half of the mates who can't keep their underwear on long enough will say you can't. Alot of my mates are males and soemtimes you can develope feelings for each other but it usually stays there, unless you are stupid enough to throw away your friendship for the sake of meaningless sex

[tradey]

ive got lots of men friends and my hubby doesnt like it at all ive known them for years and years,but what gets me is their ok to have women friends and were to think nothing of it,if i see any of them in the street and say hi god the face on him.there mates nothing else