I think this will be one for the girls!

[curly~sue]

Hello everybody!

I consider myself pretty clued up about sex, etc. but a friend of mine has me a bit confused. She slept with man a couple of days ago and we were gossiping about it, as you do. She said to me that she came but didn't orgasm.

I'm 23 and not usually dense, but is it only me that that doesn't make sense to?

Thank you.

[noxlumos]

I think the confusion is that when men ejaculate they generally reach orgasm and call it cumming/coming.
Therefore that word is synonymous with orgasm as well as ejecualtion.So as the majority of women don't ejaculate, just reach orgasm they call that cumming /coming as well.
Therefor ( again), cumming will mean orgasm for women who don't ejaculate, and ejaculation for those that do, hence the ladies above confusion. Depends whether the females speaking ejaculate or not as to what the word means to them personally, although I'm sure there's an official and authoritive text on it somewhere.
Does ANY of that makes sense?

[happygam]

Sorry, I apologise...not boo...a note to crete...SORRY BOO!!!

[crete]

4get, OMG i agree with you an intimate relationship with a partner should not be discussed i think anyone who does i believe they are very immature or is SEX just a recreation sport now ?

[China Doll]

To me Nox? Hell no.... I just came here for the titalation ;0)

[4getmenot]

Ok now I'm gonna get abuse but this is my opinion, if my bloke discussed our sex life with his best mate I would be severely peed off, thats the way I see it so I dont say anything to my mates as he's mates with them too. :-) and personally I'd rather not know how many times my best mate came. yuk :-)

[noxlumos]

To be fair I'd not discuss what goes on with my wife and I in gory detail with all and sundry, but I've no objection to generally discussing past recreational sexual expereinces, so yeah sometimes sex is just a sport and can be chatted about liberally, and sometimes it's deeper and shouldn't be discused.

[4getmenot]

I dont agree with calling them immature crete, they just see things differently to you and me, doesnt mean they are wrong or right.

[crete]

you wont get abuse 4get from mature people on the site.

[happygam]

Basically, it is each to ones own...what you do and what I do is up to myself or you - I just know that I am someone who aint frightened to talk to my best mate about personal stuff, problems I may have - I am not immature - i matured in my teens...we are in the year 2006...times have changed...and thankfull, women have toooo!! Thank goodness....!!

[whiffey]

Do close female friends also discuss each other's jobbies ?

[crete]

you whiffey are disgusting as usual.

[curly~sue]

I really don't understand the problem, if I'm honest. Why is there a limit on the subjects my friend and I can discuss? I'm fully aware it's a private issue, which, as I said, is why it was not talked about within a group of people.

It's nothing to be ashamed of, and I'm offended that because we're open enough to discuss PARTS of our sex lives, it means I'm immature.

[curly~sue]

Thank you Noxlumos

[admarlow]

I agree with Nox (shock horror!!)

Crete - if you don't want to discuss such things then thats all well and good but I don't think its really fair to insult a new user because they do.

[crete]

point taken curly, i believe that a relationship between partners should be private but each to their own if you have intimate discussions with you friend re sex then who am i to call you immature, how would you feel if your partner discussed you latest sexual encounter with a friend ?

[whiffey]

Poo-talk is always far less controversial, stay safe.

[curly~sue]

In all honesty, crete, I don't think it would worry me. I just presume that they do. After all, I would say the majority of people have a sex life and it sort of helps you learn about new things, doesn't it?

I'm not saying people who don't talk about it are in any way wrong, it's down to the individual and what they're comfortable with.

[crete]

no insult intended curly we all have our opinions , admarlow i didnt insult curly stop trying to suggest i did lol

[4getmenot]

And I didnt get abuse from these crete :-) I think you just sometimes come across as if you dont agree it must be wrong, even though I agreed with you I wouldnt say the others are immature, each to their own :-) But yes as I said I would go mad if I found out my bloke had discussed us to his mates.

[Champagne]

But I just don't get it crete and 4getmenot. What are you both still doing on this thread? Surely the best statement would be to leave and keep to threads that you like to partake in?