Please somebody talk to me

[PinkFizz]

I am in absolute bits here and I don't know what to do.I have tried to make peace with my family over the weekend before I move and each and every one has told me to go to hell. I just called my mum in a final attempt and she told me that as far as she was concerned I was dead. I can't take much more rejection.

[4getmenot]

I dont quite know all the story, why are they like this with you?

[PinkFizz]

My mum and dad are divorced.He left her after 35 years together as he couldnt cope with her drinking and temper. They both stayed single and last xmas he drove up to see me and said he was living with a new lady but mum didnt know. Months later she rang me drunk and was hounding and hounding me asking if he was still single.My partner said it wasnt fair for me to keep lying to her and so I said that he was.She said it didnt bother her and I thought that was that.

[loobie]

Hello my love, so sorry that your family are bein this way. I obviously don't know the whole story but have seen a couple of previous posts. All I can see is that you made the effort and they dismissed it. I really think you should concentrate on your partner and son and making a fresh start. I reckon the move is probably just what you need!! I'm on msn if you need a chat at all!! take care hun xx

[ummmm]

Why have the other members turned their back on you?

[PinkFizz]

Next thing I know is I have my brother and sister on fone screaming at me that I had made it up and mum was devestated. They called my dad who denied it to them as well and said I was a trouble maker. It has just escalated beyond belief. Even though I know I should have prob not told her they have basically all rejected me.I have tried to call my dad but he hangs up every time he hears my voice. I dont know what to do.

[4getmenot]

It sounds like they should all grow up, they are the parents for god sake yet they are acting like children. At the end of the day it wasnt even fair to involve you.

[Im a BusyBee]

i know exactly where youre coming from ive been there....the whole situation wasnt easy for me, it was literally making me ill. I finally gave up after i realised my life is too short and precious, i had no choice but to move on and look forward without them rather than constantly worrying about the situation. A coupla years on and i do still get upset but try to concentrate on the good things in my life and not dwell on it.

[joby1]

Bloody hell pink, They sound like a right shower of sh1ts!
Youve made an effort , Let them get on with it, Get on with your life, be happy, dont let them get you down.
once you are out the way, they'll probably turn on each other anyway! x

[PinkFizz]

I have literally cried so much last night that my whole face is swollen. My dad has even now moved and told everybody to not give me his new address. I just had my mum yelling down the phone at me that I was sick in the head to make up such an evil lie and she would never believe another word I say. How my dad can let me take this from them all without admitting the truth is beyond me.I just wanted my family back to normal.

[China Doll]

Can't say it any better than this m'dear, it's a lesson for life I find...

They fcuk you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.

But they were fcuked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.

Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.

[4getmenot]

It may be really hurting you now, I know when I fall out with my family over the tiniest things I hate sleeping on an argument. But redcrx always tells me just to leave it and how they�ll want me for something sooner or later, and they usually do. It seems to me you�ve done enough to try and make peace with them, and its their problem now. Move on, they will come running, hard as it may be try not to let this be a problem for you at the moment, as moving is one of the most stressful things ever and you don�t want to add to that.

[zimzam]

Everybody wants to be a part of a loving close family and this is not always possible. The matriarch of the family calls the shots and rules the roost and everyone follows suit to keep in favour or to keep the peace. You have tried hard and seemingly have done all you can to extend the olive branch and to go more than half way towards getting the happy medium and I don't think you can do any more than that. You should feel no guilt at this stage, just a sort of sad resignation that they are all wearing blinkers. At the end of the day please remember that YOU are YOUR most important person in this world and you have a life to enjoy which you would share but your family want to exclude themselves from it. You have done all you can - move and enjoy your life and leave guilt on their doorsteps. Good luck to you-you seem to have more love and compassion in your little finger than seemingly your family do in their entirety. It will be their loss, not yours.

[China Doll]

Just get yourself down here away from the stress. I'm sure one day they'll all see themselves in the mirror and realise what they're doing but until then look after yourself and keep your own counsel.

And what's all this talk about rejection?! Good grief woman... I'm ticking off the days on the calendar... can you not get here sooner for crying out loud?! You're most inconsiderate ;0)

Chin up my little pink angel, it will all come good xx

[redcrx]

awww Pink,
I think youve done all you can with them. Concentrate on your move and perhaps just send them details of your new address once youve settled. The ball is in their court now, theres nothing more you can do without causing yourself further upset.
(((((((huge hugs))))))) xxx

[PinkFizz]

You lot are so lovely I don't know what to say. I guess it hurts even more with it being almost Christmas time as well.My boyfriend often asks me would I choose any of my relatives as friends and the truth is that probably no I wouldn't,but you can't choose your family can you?

China - only 5 days to go hun.: )

[4getmenot]

If only you could choose :-) lol

[cameo]

I don't really know what to say to you to help you.
I can only say that i have read many of your posts on here and you come across as a really nice person and from what i've read you don't deserve to be treated this way.

You've obviously tried and yet they all want to turn on you.
I know it's going to be hard but try and focus on your partner and son.
the fact that you are moving means that you can look at it as a fresh start, try and leave all the unhappiness at your old house.
Hope you have a stress free move and settle into your new house quickly.
With only two weeks to christmas try and make it a fun and happy time for your family. I am sure that making them happy will make you see that they are the ones that really matter.

ALL THE BEST xXx

[ummmm]

It seems as though they are feeding each other. Is there not one member of the family that you can get to understand your side and help to put it across to the others?

[PinkFizz]

ummm,there is nobody.My brother and sister live a mile apart and all my grandparents are dead. I think you are all right - I can't do any more but it just hurts that they think I have made it up, Maybe my brother and sister knew about this woman and have decided to let me take the flack,rather than admit to my mum that they knew all along.

[China Doll]

Well I've always wanted a big brother and sister so you can apply for the big sister bit if you like ;0) xx