My boyfriend's friends

[yellowduck]

I'm completely in love with my boyfriend. Have been going out with him for almost six months. I miss him terribly when we're apart. But the problem is I really don't like him when he's around his friends. He's rude to our group of friends and when I tell him off he's rude to me because he doesnt want to look like I can get away with bossing him around. His friends are basically nice people underneath it all and it's fine if I've got some of my own friends with us too, but whenever it's just me and them I hate it - they've got really unappealing sense of humours (they talk about ******* on graves for example!) and Ijust don't find that funny. Plus they feel like to have fun they have to get absolutely trashed and wreck the whole place. Don't get me wrong - I like the odd heavy night, but it's not what I live for. What do you think I should do about it, if anything? x

[Random_hero]

hi. personly id talk to him alone and find out why he is like that. tell him what you would like to change exactly, and ask him to respect your wishes dont forget to mention how this affects you- say your disapointed and unhappy with the way he treats you. if he continues then he is rather rood and deserves a 'warning'. if he continues perhaps think of taking a break? if that works then wicked! but seriously talk with him. if he issnt changing you need to consider if this relasionship is working. u should NEVER have to put up with anything you dont want to. and think to yourself...can you really put up with this for life?

[cottonbud]

This is hard as you reckon you love him and miss him when you're apart, however this behaviour will carry on with his mates and in the end it will cause resentment on your part and also lower your self esteem. I would have a good hard think about your future and what you feel you deserve. In my opinion, you deserve MUCH better than someone who puts you down in front of mates. Whatever the outcome I hope it goes well for you.

[LostStar]

Why don't you refuse to spend time with him when he is around the people that are the problem? (it might make him think about his actions.) Or tell him how it is:- that if he doesn't start treating you with respect in front of his mates then you are walking! You shouldn't have to put up with it - there are no excuses for him to treat you like that.x

[sarnieken]

The classic case of us guys being different with our mates.

Definitely talk to him alone, where his mates aren't around to take the p*ss out of him. Ask him to decide who he's going to be and to stick with it. At some point he's going to have to grow up and make the decision. I would put money on it that his mates are the same with their partners.

[lisy]

sweaty i know how you feel and my boyfriend did the samething untill i thrt'ned to brake up with him and he also flirted with other girls too and just thret'n him mostlikely it'll work