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Should I take the hint?
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I have been seeing a new man recently, we have only had 2 dates, and have been in touch via text and phone and MSN everyday. We were supposed to go out together tonight, but he has cancelled on me (I am disappointed as I do like him) - but the he text me a long text that he has to have his daughter tonight - some family problem, I replied that I was sorry to hear that and I hope all goes ok, but what should I do now? Do I leave it for him to contact me now, or is this a big hint he doesnt want to see me again? He didnt apologise, and he never mentioned getting together another night....if he didnt want to see me again surely he would not have sent such a lengthy text? Unsure what to do next on this one.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.A little tricky as if you text him too soon and start asking loads of questions he may see it as an intrusion.
If you've had two good dates and nothing else has happened to make you think that something is wrong then it could be that he was genuinly held up.
Text him, but not tonight and not first thing tomorrow morning. Just ask him if everything was ok and if the family problem was ok in the end. Don't mention another date in that text. See what he says, he may lead into the next date from there. If he doesn't then ask him if he would like to re-arrange tonight. If he gives an excuse then try another night. If still no joy then it maybe isn't meant to be.
If you've had two good dates and nothing else has happened to make you think that something is wrong then it could be that he was genuinly held up.
Text him, but not tonight and not first thing tomorrow morning. Just ask him if everything was ok and if the family problem was ok in the end. Don't mention another date in that text. See what he says, he may lead into the next date from there. If he doesn't then ask him if he would like to re-arrange tonight. If he gives an excuse then try another night. If still no joy then it maybe isn't meant to be.
I think you replied well. You can't get in the way of family probs. He shouldn't need to apologise at all.
and hey ho!!! keep a good sense of humour at all times ok?
don't for heavens sake start the working it all out psychology stuff. If you're into all that buy that book called Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.
Just be you hun, truth and fun is what life is :-)
and hey ho!!! keep a good sense of humour at all times ok?
don't for heavens sake start the working it all out psychology stuff. If you're into all that buy that book called Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.
Just be you hun, truth and fun is what life is :-)
of course he should apologise, whether or not the situation was out of his hands, an apology would have gone a long way it's only politeness after all not an admission to anything. It doesn't sound like a hint anyway, just take it a day at a time and let him contact you which I am sure he will! He sound genuine enough fromwhat you have said but just be careful.
if its a family problem then his thought are probably elsewhere. I am sure if there is a problem then the last thing on his mind is apologising for not being on a date. Leave it, when he doesnt text again in a week, then is the time to realise there is gonna be nothing more. Give him a few days, then text him to say I hope everything is ok.
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