hi guys

[dot.hawkes]

My Dad would have been 85 today, he was born march 4th 1922, he died suddenly just over two years ago and it isn't getting any easier as the months go by, I know many of you on here have suffered a loss over the time i have known you, is it something you think about alot? I know I think of my parents every day, it isn't easy is it?

[PatriciaH]

I think of my mum dad and brother every day.....i was 16 when i lost my brother.. never thought id get over that one but thankfully i did , miss them all so much still xx

[laurence2]

Hello dot.

I've still got both my parents so i don't really know what its like to have such a loss, My wifes dad died 5 years ago yesterday, she thinks about him all the time, we talk about him alot, it makes life easier for her

[birdwoman]

I lost my dad 14 years ago yesterday. I do miss him a lot as we were very close but I do still see him in my dreams.

[nursecarla]

I think of my dad every single day, birthdays, xmas, fathers day etc are extra hard but he was such a happy go lucky, laid back person he would not want me to be sad so i try and remember the many fond memories i have of him and i hope i turn out to be the parent that he was xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Roughquest]

I was adopted as a baby, the man I was told was my father, died when I was just 9 years old....he was my favourite uncle...he doted on me and I was only told he was my dad a few months before he died.....to this day he lives on in my memory - I loved him so much and I missed having a father figure in my life when I needed a hug from my dad most, when I was hurting or even just because ......I think about him everyday....

[rosieglow]

I think of my folks every day as Im sure others do but more so on their birthdays. Sometimes a tune or song will start me off or even a film. Today will soon be over for you dot.

[smiffy65]

my mum died 26 years ago and my dad died two months after walking me and my sister down the aisle at our wedding 45 years ago, but I still think of them with love and pride evry day,I have also lost two sisters and a brother and my niece who was only 13 years of age when she died of cancer. but I think my faith helps me a lot because I really believe that they are in a better place than this one that we are living in, I remember years ago when my mam was seriously ill and almost died in fact We think she did but was brought round, and she said why did you wake me up I was in a beautiful garden, time is a great healer but you will never forget, the memories live forever

[sunday]

Belated sincere sympathies to you Dot. Loosing a loved one is unforgettable and difficult to come to terms with, but it takes time, more for some than others because it's not easy. Think of the good times you both had together.

Cheers!

[shaneystar2]

I was adopted as a baby .
My dad was a lovely man and as you know Dot a merchant seaman ..an unsung hero ..he died thirty odd years ago and my mum thirteen years ago aged 92 ..I loved them dearly ..if it hadn't been for these kind people I would never have had three brothers and a sister and could have ended up anywhere.
I thank God every day for my lovely parents ...and miss them terribly at times ....although I am ancient history myself !!

[garner]

I know how you feel Dot, my mum died two years ago and there is not a day goes by without i dont think about her,I lost my Dad years ago at only 51 and as time went by it got easier but with my mum i dont think its the same somehow, perhaps because i nursed her and being the only child she would only have me to tend to her, it was very hard and i still think about it so much,if only,if only but there is no if only i did my very best and thats all one can do but i do know how you are feeling and you are right its not easy.

[noxlumos]

It's true, you do think about loved ones you lose every day. I still think about my best friend, more like a brother to me, who died when he was 21 and that's 25 years ago now. I knew him since I was 3 years old and we went everywhere together. Still miss him, still talk to him sometimes, just do whatever feels right Dot, it gets easier but you never forget.

[setoda]

my father died on my birthday four years ago, infact he died about 30 seconds before i got to his hospital bed. Its hard too cope for a very long while but i PROMISE you there will come a day wen you dont think about him every second of the day. It hurts but it does get easier or maybe we just adapt. xx

[dan no1]

my dad died over 18 months ago - june 2005. no its not easy, when everything reminds you of that person. i think about him everyday. we buy flowers and go to the spot where we scattered his ashes and chat to him, on birthdays, xmas and fathers day, only this fathers day coming up will be the 2yr anniversary of his death so not looking forward to that. my dad died suddenly too, just basically dropped dead in the living room. in a way its better for them to go that way becase he probably didn;'feel anything, but not for the people they leave behind because they dont get to say goodbye. but on the other hand, how bad would it be to know that person is going to die soon and how hard it would be to say goodbye?

[bird_81]

I lost my dad suddenly 6 years ago at christmas. At the time I was in university and hadn't seen him for a couple of months and I found that the fact that I hadn't seen him was the worst part. You will eventually "get over it" it just takes time, whether it be 1 year or 10. Everyone deals with it in their own time. Hope you're feelin ok. XXXX

[ELVIS68]

My missus is like that with her dad, every year she takes her mum and sisters to the place where they scattered his ashes
Me..I`m the opposite, once they`re gone they`re gone,sounds harsh but everyone deals with death in their own way

[-Zorro-]

Dotty....i dread the day my parents go......father is 67 mother 62...neither in good health.....it will be the worst day of my life when they do....

[Pippa68]

Hi Dotty.

I think of my grandad every day without fail ~ it isn't something I make myself do, he just pops into my head.

I loved him dearly. I lived with him & my nan from the age of 2 until my mum remarried when I was 7. We moved out of the area and not seeing him often was horrible..when we moved back he would visit every day as by then he had retired. As a teenager I would visit him at weekends, despite my busy social life ;o)

Losing him when I was 18 was as if I had lost my own father ~ my grief was astonishing, actually. I sometimes smell his brylcreem..not sure if it is him still visiting..lol

[Theland]

Dot, you have touched a raw nerve in all of us. I lost my mother in 1993 aged 68 and Dad died in 2005 aged 87.
Oh what people! That generation that went through WW2 and so many hardships, hardly complaining!
But regardless of when, or who, bereavement lingers on, like the final echos of a beautiful song, whose words are oftentimes only half remambered. Then there is the guilt that we feel for not remembering the full score.
Could we have done more, been better, more loving, less selfish? .... and the answer is in your case I am sure, that you could not have done any more, given any more, but that is the nature of true love, and so you are the casualty of love, but your love will be rewarded, for those who love, are loved.

[Redbel]

Hiya Dot,

My mum passed away 27 years ago this October......and dad 8 years January gone.....I think about them both every single day and even though it's nearly 27 years for mum it still feels like yesterday.

I also lost my eldest brother 12 years ago and my sister just over a year ago.....both of whom I also miss dearly.

I'd like to think that they are all together and looking out for the rest of us.

Chin up Dot.... xxx

[maggie01]

My dad died 20yrs ago and my mum 17yrs ago. My daughter gets married in June and it is sad that they won't be there but this is how it is when people have children later in life. My sisters were luckier as my parents were there for all their children getting married and even some of the grandchildren. They have never seen my grandchildren. My mum knitted a shawl for my eldest grandson but died 2 months before he was born. God it's bought a lump to my throat thinking about it.