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My Dad would have been 85 today, he was born march 4th 1922, he died suddenly just over two years ago and it isn't getting any easier as the months go by, I know many of you on here have suffered a loss over the time i have known you, is it something you think about alot? I know I think of my parents every day, it isn't easy is it?
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If this is the thread they removed I am pleased they've put it back.
It's a lovely tribute to all these special people mentioned and now I'm in tears thinking about my own parents.
They so loved each other and it's a great comfort to think they may be together again somewhere.
My memory is my Mum constantly singing. Her favourite song was "I'll be loving you - always". It was how she lived her life. We had it played at her funeral and there wasn't a dry eye in the place.
Lots of love and good wishes to all of you for the lovely sentiments expressed here
It's a lovely tribute to all these special people mentioned and now I'm in tears thinking about my own parents.
They so loved each other and it's a great comfort to think they may be together again somewhere.
My memory is my Mum constantly singing. Her favourite song was "I'll be loving you - always". It was how she lived her life. We had it played at her funeral and there wasn't a dry eye in the place.
Lots of love and good wishes to all of you for the lovely sentiments expressed here
Hello Dot my dad passed away in 1993 he was diagnosed with liver cancer in the march and he passed away in the april then a few months later my nana died it was awful i felt so broken hearted the grief was immense but i do believe are loved ones look after us and we will be reunited in time Dot i am sure your dad WILL be watching over you and one thing that will never die is your love for each other he will always be with you lots of love megan07
My Mum died in June 2002. amd every morning when I think about her for a split second it's ok and then it comes flooding back that she's not here. You'd think I'd be used to it by now. I suppose time heals, but it just seems like yesterday in many ways.
It's the little things that catch me out. Recently though, I've really missed and needed her, I've wanted to ask her about things to do with my children. Nobody can fill my Mum's place, and it's hard not having someone like her to talk to. The last present from my Mum was a musical hatbox which plays 'I'll be loving you..always'.
No matter how old you are, it still hurts so much when you lose a parent.
I hope things get better for you Dot.
It's the little things that catch me out. Recently though, I've really missed and needed her, I've wanted to ask her about things to do with my children. Nobody can fill my Mum's place, and it's hard not having someone like her to talk to. The last present from my Mum was a musical hatbox which plays 'I'll be loving you..always'.
No matter how old you are, it still hurts so much when you lose a parent.
I hope things get better for you Dot.
My grandad died many years ago. We had some great times but he was ex ww1 and always polished my shoes for me and his own bobber boots. It is funny as I have polished my daughters shoes tonight using grandads brushes. It always reminds me of him and I have a little thought as I polish. Whenever I put heels on I think too as he had a hatred for non sensible shoes and sometines I mentally apologise to him for wearing them. All happy thoughts Dot and they never go you just accept they are happy and smile instead of cry.
It all takes time Dot so hang in there. xxxxxxxx
I can still remember grandmar singing "Ill be loving you.....always" too and she did sing it alot!!! but I remember her baking the biggest yorkshire puddings ever too.
It all takes time Dot so hang in there. xxxxxxxx
I can still remember grandmar singing "Ill be loving you.....always" too and she did sing it alot!!! but I remember her baking the biggest yorkshire puddings ever too.
I completely understand dot.h, I lost my Mum 6 weeks ago and am absolutely dreading April 3rd when we would have been celebrating her 70th birthday.
I try to 'take each day as it comes' as they say, but i'm finding i'm not in the same mood for any 2 minutes in a row. It's rotten isn't it, I go from sad, to lonely,to coping, to lost, to coping better and then wham, it starts all over again.
I opened an email from a big supermarket chain and it said " Dear Mrs.Smith, she's always there when you need her, show your Mum you care with a bunch of T***o flowers "
As you can imagine it upset me, I sent a very heated email but as yet haven't heard back.
I know they have to advertise but not something like that in such an intrusive way.
I really hope your day wasn't as bad as you'd dreaded dot.
x x
I try to 'take each day as it comes' as they say, but i'm finding i'm not in the same mood for any 2 minutes in a row. It's rotten isn't it, I go from sad, to lonely,to coping, to lost, to coping better and then wham, it starts all over again.
I opened an email from a big supermarket chain and it said " Dear Mrs.Smith, she's always there when you need her, show your Mum you care with a bunch of T***o flowers "
As you can imagine it upset me, I sent a very heated email but as yet haven't heard back.
I know they have to advertise but not something like that in such an intrusive way.
I really hope your day wasn't as bad as you'd dreaded dot.
x x
Hi Dot. I'm glad to see this thread re-instated. I am disgusted that it got reported for no other reason I can think of but sheer spitefulness. I guess it takes all sorts to make a world huh?
I lost my dad in 1995 when he was aged just 49. He was everything to me. We were very close but I didn't realise in just how many ways I relied on him until he was gone. I felt robbed because I should have had so many more years with him. It got easier as the years slipped by and I have come to terms with it. But it's something I will never 'get over' because I still, even after 12 years, feel robbed and that something in me died with him.
It does get easier as time goes by Dot, but there will still be times when the feeling of loss hurts so much. Those times get further apart as the years go by, but they are still painful. Just because our loved ones are no longer with us it doesn't mean we love them any less because they are not here anymore. So it stands to reason and it's perfectly natural that there will always be occasions when the feelings will surface again. They do get much easier to deal with though.
Now April is approaching; a bit of a grim month for me as the anniversaries of several losses are in April. My dad, my nan, my best friend who was just 36 and died of a brain haemorrhage, my brother-in-law who committed suicide aged just 34.... It's a grim month for me really. My birthday is right in the middle of it all too. I was born on the anniversary of day the Titanic finally sank, so it was never destined to be a good month for me was it? Lol!
As you remember your dad Dotty, I hope it is a comfort to know that there are many of us here who understand how you feel, even if each of our experiences are different.
I lost my dad in 1995 when he was aged just 49. He was everything to me. We were very close but I didn't realise in just how many ways I relied on him until he was gone. I felt robbed because I should have had so many more years with him. It got easier as the years slipped by and I have come to terms with it. But it's something I will never 'get over' because I still, even after 12 years, feel robbed and that something in me died with him.
It does get easier as time goes by Dot, but there will still be times when the feeling of loss hurts so much. Those times get further apart as the years go by, but they are still painful. Just because our loved ones are no longer with us it doesn't mean we love them any less because they are not here anymore. So it stands to reason and it's perfectly natural that there will always be occasions when the feelings will surface again. They do get much easier to deal with though.
Now April is approaching; a bit of a grim month for me as the anniversaries of several losses are in April. My dad, my nan, my best friend who was just 36 and died of a brain haemorrhage, my brother-in-law who committed suicide aged just 34.... It's a grim month for me really. My birthday is right in the middle of it all too. I was born on the anniversary of day the Titanic finally sank, so it was never destined to be a good month for me was it? Lol!
As you remember your dad Dotty, I hope it is a comfort to know that there are many of us here who understand how you feel, even if each of our experiences are different.
Aprilis thanks and thanks to everyone, sorry aprilis but I think you have been imposterered
http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/AB-Suggestions/ Question374751.html
5th reply here about me, i was very upset when i read it, now i know it is not you, sorry. x
http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/AB-Suggestions/ Question374751.html
5th reply here about me, i was very upset when i read it, now i know it is not you, sorry. x
Hi Dot. I had already seen that imposterer. I posted later on that thread that it wasn't me. I didn't report it myself as it would have made my post look like it made no sense. You will never see a post from me insulting you.
It appears that I wasn't the only one that was impostered on that thread and the AB Ed has deleted the imposterers posts (and kindly edited my mine so it still makes sense).
As it was a thread about awarding stars, I thought it entirely appropriate to present a star of my own to the imposterer.... my brown one! Hopefully it raised a laugh in the office while my post was being edited!
Best wishes to you Dotty x
It appears that I wasn't the only one that was impostered on that thread and the AB Ed has deleted the imposterers posts (and kindly edited my mine so it still makes sense).
As it was a thread about awarding stars, I thought it entirely appropriate to present a star of my own to the imposterer.... my brown one! Hopefully it raised a laugh in the office while my post was being edited!
Best wishes to you Dotty x
