No spark...

[Peghead]

I've been with my fiancee for almost 7 years and the spark has completely gone from our relationship. I love him, but I sometimes wonder if I'm still "in-love" with him. I feel like I'm really stuck in a rut and I have no way out.

I just want to know if anyone else has gone off their partner and managed to turn things around and start fancying them again?

I love him so much and I haven't told him that I feel like this because I don't want to hurt him.

[nat_84]

How long have u been engaged?

Well not quite the same, but me and my fella were going through a real bad patch until i became pregnant. Now we are sooooooo happy, in love and i couldnt imagine being without him.

So basically.....make babies!!!! :o)

No seriously...i do believe that you can "re-light" a romance. Maybe spice things up in the bedroom, go out to new places and try different things!

[crete]

may be best to discuss your feelings with him, as he might feel the same, but unless he is aware of how your feeling he cant do anything to help, good luck

[saanen]

I don't think you should get pregnant to try to rekindle your relationship. What if it doesn't work,and you grow farther apart. The poor child did not fulfill its purpose - and then what happens to it?

[nat_84]

saanen...i was joking.....hence the "No, seriously"

[crete]

its ok nat most of us got that,

[tradey]

i dont thimk having a baby will help,sometimes it makes it worse,sit down and have a good chat,tell eachother how your feeling,that may make things better,you know i think we all go through this at some stage

[nat_84]

lol - well at least crete got it.... i dont have much hope for everyone else ;oP

[carjack]

What works for me is to remember when you first met, what was it about him that firstr attracted you? What things did you do? Remenber the first date/kiss/sexual eperience etc. Go to the old places, listen to old songs that you liked at the time, do the things you used to. Look at old photos, ask yourself what he brings to your life and what you would miss if you split up etc.It may not work for you but it always works for me.

[TillyNilly]

Peghead...Spice your relationship up...Do romantic things and gesters..Remember what it used to be like...
Tilly

[Champagne]

Whatever happens, PLEASE don't marry this guy until you have resolved your issues.

Best of luck.

[kwicky]

If its like this before you get married imagine what the future holds. Make the break so that he has still time to make a relationship where he can find a more perfect match.