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No Mother's Day cards!
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My friend pointed out to me the other day that we hadn't received Mother's Day cards made by our children in reception class. She had brought this up at parent's evening and was told the reason was that some children in the class came from broken homes and they didn't want to upset them. However, the school thought it appropriate this week to tell the children about Jesus dying on a cross with nails in his hands and my friend's son had nightmares about people dying. Where do we draw the line about upsetting children?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Rosepetal, are you saying then that the feelings of the motherless children in the school should not be considered? Whilst I don�t agree with an outright ban � the school could have considered a more liberal approach and allowed the tradition to exist to make cards for carers and fathers who provide the �mothering� role. I am sure they would do this if you asked.
You are conflicting a modern tradition with teaching. It is more likely that your friends son had the nightmares because of a film he watched or a game he played on his X-Box.
This whole issue was covered recently in the Daily Mail. Unsurprisingly.
You are conflicting a modern tradition with teaching. It is more likely that your friends son had the nightmares because of a film he watched or a game he played on his X-Box.
This whole issue was covered recently in the Daily Mail. Unsurprisingly.
I run a kids club and we do a make a card night where they can make a mothers day card if they wish or a card for their dad, grannie or best friend. This has always worked well and we have children from split families and bereaved children. I think it's just the way you approach it, if you have a little thought there's no problem. As with the Jesus story, it would seem that they had not done it in possibly the best way for smaller children.
I'm certainly not saying that the feelings of motherless children shouldn't be considered, Octavius. I appreciate that it must be very hard to balance the needs of all of the children in the class. In fact I'm not particularly bothered about receiving a card myself (as I said above I hadn't even noticed we hadn't received one!), but my friend obviously was.
I was just wondering, as I asked, where the line is drawn and wondered what other people thought? One child may be troubled by getting a card for a Mum he/she doesn't have, another may be worried after hearing about someone being crucified. But obviously it's an unreasonable question as the issue has been discussed in the Daily Mail.
Of course Octavius is right, his nightmares must have been from playing on the X-Box that he doen't have, or watching the 18 rated horror films that his Mum doesn't let him watch, because crucifixion isn't at all disturbing.
I was just wondering, as I asked, where the line is drawn and wondered what other people thought? One child may be troubled by getting a card for a Mum he/she doesn't have, another may be worried after hearing about someone being crucified. But obviously it's an unreasonable question as the issue has been discussed in the Daily Mail.
Of course Octavius is right, his nightmares must have been from playing on the X-Box that he doen't have, or watching the 18 rated horror films that his Mum doesn't let him watch, because crucifixion isn't at all disturbing.