I'm SOOOOOO excited...

[Rubyrose]

and I just can't hide it!
I'm about to lose control and I think I like it! Whoooooo

Sorry... I had to do that in here, otherwise I will faint due to excitment!

I am going on lunch with the guy I fancy! :oD

[mrknowall]

Ok mate what ever im not saying its right but its life.....

[mrknowall]

I like ruby she is honest and true full more than most on ab.

[mrknowall]

I dont know if its true steve i dont belive much on here but i what i read sshe is doing no wrong. OK he is married but kaz has not slept or done out else. And if it did happen so be it . right mate im off 2 bed

[ELVIS68]

really legend...by who?

[mrknowall]

Steve and elivis im off to bed any way happy birthday 4 yesterday mate u old git mine soon as well.

[ELVIS68]

Cheers dave, and legend..catch ya soon

[figure]

When I read your introductory post I was all excited for you because I thought Wardy was the guy who is responsible for you being so excited. I cannot tell you how disappointed I was when I read further down the thread that it was not him....

[Rubyrose]

Wow! I go out for the night and come back to all sorts!

I don't even know where to start! Boo - I will be downloading that song for a little listen later ;o)

Right - First off... Leg-end.. I have never had an affair with a married man! You seem to twist everything I say... I was/am good mates with one.. and No his wife doesn't know about me but we have never done anything 'affair' like.. it's just she doesn't know as it would seem very awkward.
Anyway... none of that is the point at hand...

I went for lunch with the guy.. Yes I was excited coz I fancy the pants of him!

Do you fancy Angelina Jolie? She is with Brad Pitt! Does that make it wrong? Does it mean you can't look? Does it mean you'd say No if she asked you out for lunch? Like hell it does!

Well I happen to like this guy.. married or not! I'm NOT going to have an affair with him.. Like I said.. I'm not the mistress type.. I need far to much attention for that! But I can't promise to you all that if we got drunk at the Christmas party or something and he tried to kiss me that I would back off! I wouldn't be able to help myself I'm sure.. and I'm sure I'd regret it!
I happen to know 3 other girls in my office that fancy some of the married/involved men and I happen to know that some of the married/involved men fancy some of the girls too and act the same as the women! And some of the other guys go to lunch with the girls even though they know they fancy them! Are they wrong too? Or just flattered and enjoy the company?

I'll bet good money that you couldn't walk into any workplace and find some kind of love affair behind the scenery! Every work has it... something like 60% meet their partners through work. And quite a high percentage leave their partners for someone at work.

[Rubyrose]

Who here has NEVER fancied someone they worked with? Whether they were single or involved? You spend most of your time with these people.. some connection is bound to form!

I met my ex through work and he left me for a girl at his work! I'm proving the statistics already!

That said and done, I'm not trying to justify!
I'm not having an affair with the guy, I'm not sleeping with him, I don't have any plans to either... except maybe in my dreams! Lol. But honestly... what am I doing wrong?
Is it any worse than a school girl fancying a teacher?

I didn't walk into the office and say 'Right, where's a nice married man for me to fancy?'! It just happened... and I liked him for months before I knew he was married as well! I couldn't have stopped it if I had wanted to!

I've had the lecture before.. some of the guys at work tell me to be careful but they also tell me that it doesn't matter that we are just friends!

[Rubyrose]

I'm not stupid.. naive perhaps but stupid no.. I know what married men are like, I've seen it all before a million times over.. (not happening to me though) and I know the tricks they pull and the lines they cast..

And everyone is saying he is using me.... Did anyone ever think for one second that I might actually be using him? I am the one who can walk away.. who can go out, have a laugh, meet other men and I am not tied down to anyone. But truth of the matter is... I am on my own. I have been through a lot in the last few years of my life and sometimes it's nice to know someone wants you. I'm not planning on snatching him away from his wife but it's nice to know, even though he has someone.. he might want me! It's a hard fact of life. Yeah... he may use me to feel more attractive for a few moments and I am sure I cross his mind in a way or two that I shouldn't.. but that's it.. that's all he gets.. and if it helps him through his day.. or even his marriage then so be it.

Everyone on this site is so judgemental and you all act like butter wouldn't melt.
MrK is right... I am honest.. too honest.. this I already know. I say what I feel, what I think and pretty much at the time I think it too! That's me.

[Rubyrose]

I read post after post on here about people who have a partner who they think is cheating or they are thinking about having an affair and I NEVER judge... You will never find a post from me on here, moaning at someone for cheating or anything like that.. and that is simply because it's their life to live not mine.. I'm not going to sit there and give advice based on societys standard rules! Live and let live. I would never give advice to someone unless I gave it with their best interests at heart.. I wouldn't tell someone to stay in a loveless marriage because it's the 'done' thing. I wouldn't encourage someone to cheat either. But I'd give advice the best I know how and I tell you something.. I'd do it without calling them a slapper or a ho or a home wrecker too!

There is a reason for everything and just because a guy cheats on his partner it doesn't mean he is a cheating scum bag and he found himself a slapper.... why did he stray? Would he have been looking elsewhere if he was happy at home? I'm not just talking about sex.. It runs much deeper than that!

People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones and half of you lot are involved and constantly flirting with eachother! You all sit their fawning over eachother and making sexual comments and then dissapearing onto msn... Do I judge you? No! If that's what you want to do then do it. But don't you dare point the finger at me until you take a good hard look at how perfect you are first!

[Rubyrose]

I don't live my life by anyone's standards but my own! At the end of the day I want to be able to turn round and say 'Well this is what I did, I did the best I could but I did it the way I wanted to do it'.. If I take someone else's advice and regret the things I've done then I'd hate myself more for not following my heart!

No-one belongs to anyone in this world and you should never be able to control someone.. physically or mentally.... if you don't have your own free will... then what do you have?

Well... I don't know what else to say now... I shall await the repercussions of this one I guess! But make it snappy... I have a wedding to go to in few hours.. I might try and steal the groom! (Lol.. Joke)

Oh and Elvis... Thanks. :o)

[mrknowall]

XXX
There not kisses above but stars
and i like the bit below

And everyone is saying he is using me.... Did anyone ever think for one second that I might actually be using him?

well said

[Rubyrose]

Thanks Mrk.. :o)
I didn't realise how much I had typed until I had to paste it into Word coz AB kept saying 'there are too many characters for this post'! Lol