Can they?

[Rubyrose]

Is it true that men and women can't be friends or is it just those who judge that put that burden on that friendship?

[Joe_the_Lion]

If one fancies the other, the simple answer is no.

[joshieboyo]

Men and Women can be just friends providing friendship is what is on both of their minds. If one of the two have feelings then being just friends will be very difficult.

[redcrx]

I agree with joe (wow, never thought id say that lol), it makes it very difficult for all concerned if one wants more than friendship.

As mates then of course men and women can get along fine.

[B00]

Sure they can be friends- providing neither of you fancies the other, then it's never gonna work I'm afraid Rosie.

[4getmenot]

yes they can be just friends, I am friends with alot of blokes, but that does not mean fancying them. Other people will only put a burden on it if there is something to put a burden on.

[raysparx1]

Hi Ruby, of course they can be friends, my first ever girl friend is now a very lovely friend, and i think the world of her as a friend, it would never have worked as a couple, and i have one other lady friend who is a great friend. and my wife likes them both.

[ummmm]

90% of my friends are male and 90% of them have tried it on at some time or another. I think once you get past that then you can be very good friends. I would choose spending time with my male friends over the female ones anyday.

[tradey]

when i meet my hubby many years ago he didnt like the idea one of my closest friends was a male,but its tough hes still my mate and always will be,but i tell you what i get some funny looks when im out with him and bump into someone that knows my hubby,god if looks could kill

[Rubyrose]

Ummm - Most of my friends are males and I have always got on better with guys.. that said I have loads of close female friends but general friends are mostly men! And... I have at one time or another fancied most of them and some of them have admitted to fancying me at one time or another but it doesn't take away the fact that we are friends.. and it doesn't stop me being friends with their partners either.

[browneyedgir]

Definitely. Out of all my friends I would say 90% are male. I am best friends with my ex of 6 years. 1 of my friends became a boyfriend and now we have split we are no longer talking but quite a few of my really good mates now are blokes I have been out with in the past.

[wigglebum]

I fancy all my male friends and I don't care. Would never do anything as hubby might have something to say!! I know he fancies a few of his female friends and it doesn't bother me I got him!!!

[laurence2]

Its the ''TRUST'' word again


Men and Women can be friends, its the people that jump to conclusions that are the problem.

[Champagne]

I have male mates. I�m quite capable of knowing the difference between friends and sexual attraction.

But I also have female friends who can�t be friends with men, and those are the ones who find it hard to believe that I haven�t even snogged one of my male friends. Whereas for me it would be like snogging one of my female friends!

[4getmenot]

then in answer to your question can they be friends yes but from what you have said 'can they JUST be friends' no, as either one fancying eachother does not make them just friends.

[wigglebum]

But how many people in relationships say my partner is my best friend, its all about friends, everyone is a friend really. Well that's how I see it, people I work with are friends, my neighbours are friends, oh I love everyone and might possibly fancy them too!! Share the love xxx

[jump82]

Married/attached men and women who fancy them cannot be friends for too long

[4getmenot]

so you say you fancy all your male friends. does this include work ones, neighbours etc wigglebum?

[Rubyrose]

Champs... I get the same! One of my closest friends is male and I can honestly say there has NEVER been anything sexual between us! Never!

We have been mates for years but I have known him since I was a kid as he lives down my road! We get on great... I used to call him when me and my ex split, he calls me when he is down about his ex, he always rings me when he is back from Uni and he comes and meets me and we spend hours chatting! To me, he is like a female friend! I remember once his girlfriend asked him if I had ever tried it on with him and he was so shocked that when they came and met me, he told me about it in front of her and we were both in shock and I think she realised there would never be anything between us! I find it hard to even admit he is attractive... he is like the brother I never wanted! Lol