Talking to men

[miffy63]

Why is it that when a woman says to a man "I need to talk" he tenses up and gets on the defensive. It drives me nuts and often causes an argument.
Men - Why do you do it?

[Panic Button]

Anything you say dear

[Trinny]

If they don't want to talk. Then they sulk because they think by you "wanting to talk" you will be having a go at them grrrr

Yes legend, think I need to chill out with a vodka!!

[Goodsoulette]

Brilliant, found someone I actually want to marry.

[bigmamma]

Trinny , how did it go love , when do you expect to hear ? xx

[Trinny]

hi bigmamma, it went ok thanks. Will hear early next week . Hope you are okxx

aww legend, thats nice, you spending time with your little legend (sweet) ... have a safe journey back xxxx

[bigmamma]

Pleased it went well trinny , hope it will be yours.:-)
I am off to sleep now as I had a rotten night last night and I need to catch up , night . xxx

[Cockney_si]

Usually when men are told this by women when they are younger it means they are about to be dumped.

It is also code for 'where is this relationship going?' and 'you've done something wrong and I've stewed on it for a while now and had enough'.

It would be much easier to just say politely 'I need to have a chat with you later about something' .... Then the man can relax and not stew on it himself and try and get all worked up over nothing.

[miffy63]

You have all hit the nail on the head in one way or another and I thank you for your time x

[confused79]

God are you sure you are not my twin,
I tried to have a 'talk' last night to my man and god was it a mistake, he took it as an arugment and was horrible, i think he pretended to fall asleep in the end, god i wanted to run to the edge of a cliff and scream!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[miffy63]

Oh my God confused! I had exactly the same reaction. I'd sent him a lovely ecard saying that if he was free tonight perhaps we could talk. The reaction to the ecard was good but when I came home from work with a bottle of wine he jumped up and said that he was obviously in the wrong and if I thought i could extract an apology from him with wine then I was very much mistaken. Wow, talk about over reacting, all I wanted to do was talk over a few things as equals - nothing heavy!