Flirting when in a relationship.....

[fiest82]

Would you feel comfortable if you or your partner/spouse flirted with someone at work or anywhere else on a regular basis? Even if you are not the jealous type, if the flirting continued and went as far as emails, phonecalls, maybe even meetings ...... where would you draw the line?
This is directed to people who are not single by the way :)

[4getmenot]

I am a very flirty person but know how far to take it. I 'occasionally' do it and only to blokes I find attractive but wouldnt take their number or meet up with them etc, even if was just as flirting mates. I wouldnt like it if my bloke did so I wouldnt do it myself

[redcrx]

Im not a jealous sort of person so I wouldnt be too concerned if anyone was trying to flirt with my fella. But if both were flirting and it was someone that he was spending a lot of time with then I would be rather annoyed after a while.
Id have a word with him and talk it through, If he couldnt see that i was affected by it then we'd have serious words i think.
We all flirt, but at the point where people can get hurt then it should be kept in check or stopped.

[leewayne]

I would go nuts,why would you need to flirt with someone when your with someone?? I wouldnt feel comfortable but id have to trust my partner as i would never stop him talking to anybody,as for flirting,if he done that,then his a**e would be out that door.Thats my opinion anyway. People who flirt should question there relationship

[newlywed]

I am not the jealous type but I don't like it when my hubby occasionally gets flirty when we are out. If he does I go over and introduce myself as his wife.

If it went as far as emails etc I would ask to meet them and make sure I was involved in the "friendship" - if that is all it is then there shouldn't be a problem.

[fiest82]

I think the same as you 4get/redcrx, I've just been reading all kinds of posts on here and in another category, where people think its all a bit of fun, quite harmless as long as everyone's happy! and fun to give and recieve!??? Yes, I'm sure the partner/spouse is laughing along with them and having a great time as well!!!! If only the tables were turned and their partners found someone even better looking to flirt with, I'd like to see how they would react then.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, any form of flirting when your in a relationship is disrespectful to your partner.
Also, if you look at why people start cheating on their partners, it starts off as flirting, then more touchy feely, then as you know, the rest goes from there.
(But then again i am single) ...

[leewayne]

No your right mrben,you just dont go there

[redcrx]

MrBen,
I really dont agree with your statement that flirting develops into cheating on a partner. Im a naturally flirty person, but have no reason to want to cheat on my boyfriend at all. Just as finding someone else attractive doesnt mean I dont love my boyfriend and want someone else

[Katie~77]

My husband is a flirt. He has lots of female friends who he socialises with and it doesn't bother me in the slightest.x

[4getmenot]

yes maybe cheating starts off as flirting but flirting doesnt end up in cheating

[4getmenot]

so if he kept asking out the same girl to lunch as in ruby's situation and he knew they fancied him that wouldnt bother you Katie? I'm not the jelous type I even left my bloke with an old girlfriend at the end of a party the other week but I wouldnt let him go to lunch everyday with her

[fiest82]

I think the relationship has to be weak for the flirting to develop into actual cheating.... but agree with MrBen, flirting can be quite disrespectful to your partner, it can even ruin a relationship.

[leewayne]

I find lots of other people attractive but it stays at that i wouldnt be disrespectful and go and flirt even if it is harmless,just wouldnt like it myself,maybe my partner does,but i just dont see it which is how i like it.

[Katie~77]

If he's going to have an affair, nothing I can do will stop that! I wouldn't dream of telling him what he can and can't do, he's an adult!x

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, its ok you women flirting with other guys and you know it wont go any further, but does the weak guy who only has 1 thing on his mind know that?
It only takes you to get drunk one day or be very emotional, then you bump into him out one night, and your just like putty in his hands then...
redcrx , window shopping isnt cheating. ???
From my point of view, women who flirt are missing attention in their own relationship. If you were looked after well enough then you wouldnt want to upset your partner, and i think flirting is disrespectful if your in a relationship...

[Katie~77]

I think it's completely harmless.x

[4getmenot]

you wouldnt dream of telling him he cant have an affair?? He's got it good with you hasnt he

[Rubyrose]

My ex did flirt with a girl at his work... a lot.. to the point where he actually left me for her! I spent the whole relationship worrying that someone at his work might fancy him or he might like them and stuff but at the end of the day you can't stop things like that! Now if I was with someone I'd just let them get on with it.. otherwise the worry will consume you! There is nothing you can do... you can't follow them to work!

I have a book called 'What men don't want women to know'! I recommend every woman reads a copy! You will be shocked! It's written by men too!

[MrBen5]

Hey katie77 :)
I dont think he will go and have an affair if he knows the consequences.
But if you give him free reign and say its up to him if he has one, he knows you mustnt have deep feelings for him. If you like someone enough, you would want to keep them and make it clear that you wont put up with any form of cheating, or intention to.
I dont know how long you have been married , but i wouldnt want to have wasted a good few years of my life with someone who knows that they could cheat at any time...

[Katie~77]

That's right I wouldn't tell him he can't have an affair! I'd just pack his bags for him! Having an affair and flirting are two very different things!!!!!x