Cheating hearts

[ab_user]

I have been 'helping' a few friends out recently, by seeing whether their husbands are being faithful or not. All this involves is arranging to be at the same bar as these men, catching their attention, flirting with them and seeing how far they will take things. It is similar to a honey trap except I do not get paid to do this, I have done this as a favour for some insecure friends. Apart from some harmless flirting, the men have mostly appeared to be faithful. One of my friends from uni has been having some problems with her boyfriend, she asked if I would 'do my thing' and see if she was playing around. Everything was set up, I was in the bar when her boyfriend arrived and HE WAS GORGEOUS. We spent the night catching glances at each other, until her finally approached me and offered to buy me a drink, I accepted and we spent the rest of the evening drinking together, I was feeling pretty hot by the end of the evening and decided to take him up on his offer of sex. It was amazing. The following day I had to report back to my friend and I told her that he was 'faithful' and that she had nothing to worry about, the problem now though is that we have continued to see each other and meet up weekly. I feel bad as my friend now thinks things are great between her and her boyfriend now she thinks he is faithful? Should I tell her that I have caught him cheating so that she will finish with him? Or shall I just carry on with this?

[4gottenabout]

I have just been honest all the way through, nice to you in first post I told you to grow up, no different to what I'm saying now really. Can I ask agin why did you do this honeytrap thing, you wernt getting paid were you?

[dot.hawkes]

lol yeah right. good one abuser.

[4gottenabout]

And as I said before yes we all make mistakes but you don�t seem to be rectifying it and you planned honey traps that isn�t a mistake. No none of us know you but we are giving an opinion on how you are coming across. You cant care for any of your friends if you�ve done this in first place.

[Octavius]

Wouldn�t �taking the first step to rectify this mistake� revolve around this man and your friend, rather than an anonymous website?

You are a perfidious charlatan, in life and on AB.

[dot.hawkes]

ooo that narrows down the suspects Octavius

[4gottenabout]

and she wants to blame someone else Oct. Surely this girl will want prove and to know who he is sleeping with

[Rubyrose]

Ok, you want real advice?

Call him now and tell him it's over. No more sleeping with him. Stop giving us sh!t about 'I can't seem to stop sleeping with him but I don't love him'.. Stop it now. Otherwise you will lose your friend forever.. although from where I am sitting, it looks like she will be far better off without you.

Tell her you have been sleeping with her guy. Yes this is a sh!t thing to have to do and it seems silly to do once you have ended things with him but she should know she is dating a scum bag because if it wasn't you, it was going to be someone else... and he may do it again. Don't think he did it because you are special... it was an opportunist thing for him. If you don't tell her then the guilt will eat you up inside (this is of course, assuming that you actually have a soul)..

[cazzz1975]

just to add to rubys advice, I wouldnt worry about your friends confidence dropping, the important thing is she will find out the truth, about you and him.

maybe you are trying to lead her this merry dance because you dont want her to find out how much of a two faced b!tch you are, she will get wise and dump you as a mate, if she has any brains she will warn all the others and they will stop using your "services"

maybe thats why you dont want to tell her...?

[Rubyrose]

The only reason people post questions like this is because they are after that small hope that someone will turn round and tell them they aren't in the wrong and that they should carry on doing whatever it is they are doing! I know. I've done it myself... and these guys (Abers) keep me in check!

[Octavius]

Now, this is only a suspicion, and I don�t want everyone to berate me nor nuffink, but I get a really strong oniony feeling that this person doesn�t have any friends and its all maded up.

[cazzz1975]

It has crossed my mind too oct, but then again this place makes me suspicious!!

believe no one!

[Rubyrose]

Octavius... You are quite the detective!

[Octavius]

More Clouseau than Poirot though, eh?

[Rubyrose]

I'm too young to know the difference.. or even care.. but sure.. whatever one you want! ;o)

[caz247]

how odd that these threads are always posted
by a greenie lol
do we smell another ruskie in the midst surely not

[ab_user]

Why the hell would anyone make this sort of thing up? Why? It's difficult enough the fact it IS real.

[redcrx]

so come on then, what do YOU think you should do?

[ab_user]

I really don't know. Whatever I do now, it is too late to save the friendship. If I say he cheated with someone else, then why didn't I tell her, If I own up and say it was me, then friendship over. Who knows. I don't know what to do for the best.

[ab_user]

I thought that if I explained how the affair came about then it would give you more of an insight into my situation rather than me just coming on here saying �I�m sleeping with a friend�s partner�

[dot.hawkes]

maybe if you had come on and said that and posted it in the relationships category you would indeed have been believed, as it is it's all the usual attnetion seeking garbage posted in b& S by a grenie who has chosen the most used name attempted.