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[hippyhoppy]

Mr me came round tonight and declared that he wanted a divorce...he put a spin on it saying that I would benefit (tax credits etc) I know that he's living away,but this makes me think there's someone else (he say's no!). Why would a man want a divorce so quick when we get on unless there was a.n.other involved...

[DottyH]

awww that's a rotten thing for him to say to you, but unless there is a.n. other I think you have a few years before the divotce can go thru. you divorce him don;t let him divorce u

[hippyhoppy]

I said the same thing! i said 'let's wait the two years' as he acknowledged no one was to blame, but he was quite fidgety, hence the a.n.other - ness I feel.

[Pippa68]

The same thing happened to me with Mr Pippa MK1.

However he wanted to wait 2 years..and initially I agreed. Then I thought that he wanted some time to go and gad about so I started divorce proceedings. It eventually came to light that he did in fact have another woman, so I'm glad I didn't prolong the agony.

I am also glad I divorced him. He left me, but I had the final say.

[hippyhoppy]

Pippa - I just want a mk 2 of my own... how can I do that with two kids and no social like....

[Pippa68]

Hey..if I can manage it so can you!

I went through it all, wondering who the hell would want me with 2 kids..out in the middle of nowhere with no family to help etc etc.

But it came good. With each day that passed came a little bit of confidence, then a bit more. I wasn't even looking for someone else when Mr P came into my life. Maybe that was the key?

[hippyhoppy]

OK so I'm 5 months into a 2 year 'sentance' of non male-ness. this is harsh! should I persue this divorce he wants...bearing in mind I live with his parents every summer in Majorca - are they my out-laws now?!

[scorps282]

hippy , id make a good mk11 !!! im also on the lookout and about 2 go thru a divorce! 2 kids wouldnt put me off and im sure it wouldnt put others off !!! look on the bright side babe !!! im trying 2!!! xxx

[yes-doc]

Hello,

I think in one of your other blogs, I'cant remember who it was said...'speak to someone at work and tel them you had mad passionate lovemaking on holiday - for the full 5 nights.'
This is a really great idea for lots of reason.

Will talk more tonight,

got to go.

You will be ok.

As for getting on.. do you really.. ask yourself this deep down.

Talk later.

Take care.

[Latchibeach]

Please don't punish the childrens grandparents because you have problems with their son.(I speak from experience)

[Pippa68]

I am still friends with my 'ex' mother in law. As far as I (and she) is concerned, we are still in laws.

I kept in contact with her not only the the kids sakes, but because we got on well and had a relationship all of our own anyway.

I regularly go to see her with Mr Pippa MK2, and our children together are treated as grandchildren by her. It can be difficult, but I think it is better this way.

[gina32]

dottyh why shouldnt she let him divorce her? what difference does it make? and what makes you think she has a few years for the divorvce to go through?

[yes-doc]

Hi hippyhoppy,

I think, if you have spent so much time with the 'outlaws' the chances are you can keep this up.

You clearly don't understand why he is the way he is.. do we ever? But if you get on so well, why did he leave?
He must have his reasons other than mess.

Does he really like being a dad?

The question as i see it at the moment is, Is he being honest with you.

The answer to that i feel is no - you know it, or you wouldn't have asked him. Trust yourself, believe in your gut feeling, it said on the radio today that most women are right. 90% of the time I think it said, when it came to knowing their man was being unfaithful.

The next question is how do you find out?
He won't admit it -you've already asked him. why not?- in case it hurts his pocket,
because he doesn't want to turn you into AKA missery
because he would also want this new bird to fit in as and when she appears.

Ohhh.. what a git.....

I'm know how much you must be hurting. It's like a confused bewhildered, don't understand feeling...

So why did he do what you did on hol. if he wanted the big D?

He's, Cruel.... Cruel.. Cruel....

hope you're ok.

[yes-doc]

i have another q. How exactly would it help tax credits?

I don't think it would.

And in anycase, if the next government isn't labour, these could be abolished.

I wouldn't want you making any rash decisions on his say so, you might have trusted him once, but you need to look after yourself and your childrens interests.

remember this is the man, who left because of mess, yeh right, then slept with you on holiday, but his parents didn't know, then came home and asked for a D....

I could slap him again.

I'm sorry, if i appear angry on your behalf.

[yes-doc]

If he reckonsons there is no-one else and you don't want to find out if there is another, that's up to you. but i'd the make him wait. then see how bl**dy twichity he gets.

It will take you that long to pull yourself together, anyway.
Any relationship you had now wouldn't last because i think if your true to yourself, you still love him.

OHHH I'm cross with him......

[hippyhoppy]

yes-doc - I'm LOL'ing. I'm not even THAT cross with him!

Latchibeach and Legend - There is no way that my out-laws will not see their grandchildren...I love them more than ever and they have been a great support.

PS. They were my 'out-laws' way before all this because of their outragious behaviour and out look on life...

[yes-doc]

I'm glad your 'outlaws' are being supportive. At least you can count on them!

Not that cross! - you sound so lovely and understanding.-
i don't understand why.... your not cross

So have you thought about what your going to do?

[dimwithwit]

Oh dear, I was reading.. yes bored on a monday night... might hit the booze later..Oooops or have I already ???? but you're not serious are you?...

Well i surposes it takes allsorts....
What would he have to do to get you angry?

Do you ever get angry? are you that gullible?

Not that it's any of my business, but I think you're not looking at this objectively are you?

but then again, if you don't want to know the truth. living in bliss and all that... what stop the hey.... I think he's passed that. don't you?

Still. it's up to you?