Cheap

[4getmenot]

Following on from this post

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/R elationships-and-Dating/Question452331.html

If you have a one night stand does that make you cheap?

[Reverandfunk]

No.

As long as you are both consenting so what.

[nutgoneflake]

What may seem, today, to be "fun while you're young" will turn into tomorrow's "been around a bit" just when someone who really matters to you arrives on the scene.....

I only say this because I used to share a flat with a girl who slept around in our small town. She wasn't local, but one weekend she met a lovely guy I'd known at school, who was away in the forces and on a home visit. After one weekend, she was smitten! He went back to wherever, then they wrote and spoke on the phone constantly - he sent her presents, she was head over heels and he was too. A few months went by like this and then he came home again. He took her to meet all his mates, excited to show off his 'mystery woman' he'd been raving about. It turned out she'd slept with some of them, or they knew others she had etc. Basically, she was a bike, and he didn't know. It all came unravelled, and she was distraught for months.

A carefree present will turn into a regretted past if you're not too careful...
xx

[whiffey]

I agree with alijangra.

The sex act in my view is the most precious statement you can make to another human being, and should be reserved for only the most most special of people, probably no more than 2-3 in your entire lifetime.

One-night stands, yes you are really cheap.

[alijangra]

The NHS could keep up with the demand of a few simple swabs and blood tests if it was to reduce the amount of people seeking treatment for STDs (more than you might think!). The odds of contracting an STD via blood or sexual fluids is extremely low when using a condom correctly but the sad fact is many people have one night stands under the influence of alcohol so they are possibly less careful with their condoms. Also crabs, warts and herpes can be passed on by skin-skin contact so touching penis with hands then touching the females genitalia can pass these things on. Im afraid I do not have statistics for you Sasha as I have not submitted a research paper on the subject as yet ;)

[4getmenot]

in you eyes whiffey.
And nutgoneflake I loved your first line. But surely this is sad when someone brings up the past.

[alijangra]

In the same vein as nutgoneflakes reply, I do believe it is a small world and these things can come back to haunt you. Im originally from a small community where the girls who had one night stands really did get a bad name, and even though I now live in a large city I still feel the same way.

[Sasha13]

I think there's a difference between someone who has lots and lots of partners and someone who doesn't but just happens to have had one night stands among their 'number'.

[Reverandfunk]

Whiffey - In your opinion.

I could say that anyone who has slept with less than 10 people is an unadvenurous prude (I wouldnt though).

Personally as long as you aren't hurting anyone it's your body so do with it what you want.

[4getmenot]

or maybe a difference with people that keep quite about it and others that show of about it

[whiffey]

Yes Rev, of course it's only my opinion !!

Even New Labour hasn't pronounced fact on this one yet.

I don't believe your body is 'yours to do anything you like with', that's physical and spiritual anarchy. Only my opinion before you point it out to me again.

[Reverandfunk]

Whiffey - If you are not responsible for your own body who is????

[nutgoneflake]

But it was her own past she was creating every time she dropped her knickers. Sorry to sound crude, 4get, but it was definitely the case with her!

She was lovely really, and just couldn't 'get' that she was scuppering any chance she had of settling down where she was. She didn't just have lots of partners, either, she had lots of one night stands. Married nightclub owner in his office on a quiet night...local guy missed the bus home...any opportunity!!