Need help for a friend.......................

[blu3wave]

A guy I know, suffers from depression. He occaionally drinks and cant find a decent girlfriend :( When he does, he clings to them like no one else will have him, which is probably what drives the women away.
Anyway, I think that's part of the problem, coz he's so clingy he'll pretty much have anybody at this stage.
I dont know how to help him get over his depression, on top of which I think he's suffering from mid-life crisis too! He's a real mess and cries every now and then.
How do I help him? Also, I think he should find a nice girl for himself, he doesnt want to get out of the house, is there any other way for him to socialize and meet women?

[andrea81]

Not being funny but If he needs that kind of attention I thin he probably needs a carer! Failing that get him a mail order bride!

[blu3wave]

please dont turn this into another Fat post. I think we have discussed that one to death so let sleeping dogs lie, ok?

I do care for him, and just coz i dont care for any of you- thats coz i dont know you- but I am busy with my own life so cant take care of him all the time. Plus he has his pride, he wouldnt want to be a burden on me, his one and only friend.

[redcrx]

oooh chocolate cazzz, is a giant toblerone a single portion do you think?

will go down a treat with the huge burger i now have in mind for tea! Yum Yum.

[blu3wave]

Prostitutes are no good, neither ar mail order brides, as they are all after money. Plus women who sell themselves tend to be ugly or carry diseases, you wouldnt want your baby from them.

I think he should put an AD in the local paper, in the personals section. Who knows the lucky woman may be just round the corner from him.

[milliezoe]

Alot of negative comments on here you are a true friend to him does he have any interests Sport Golf gardening cooking just trying to think of ways to get him out of the house and in to somewhere where he may meet someone with similar interests i think the thing is to be subtle about this and not say you may meet somebody If he takes up a hobby you never know where it might lead hope this gives you a few ideas

[redcrx]

OMG blu3, who started with the fat posts and insults again? shame on them

"if you were a useless cow, you'd be a burger, cazz. Now f**k off. Are you fat? You must be as you are clearly hurt by all my earlier posts. Want more KFC?? yum yum"

oh yeah, that will have been YOU!

[cazzz1975]

I thought you loved discussing fat people blu3, you post everywhere on AB about fat people, when you are losing an arguement you resort to calling people fat as well

Isnt it part of the obsession? your fat so we all have to pay for it now by listening to your made up stories??

go and shovel some junk into you until you cheer up

[blu3wave]

And for the last time, dont get jealous of me, I'm slim, can eat as much as I want ( i only get sick not fat :) ) and dont need to be ''on the pull'' like all you desperate ppl on the net.... as I get that all the time anyway.

Back to my friend now, who I care about so so much. I think he should join an anonymous depressed people group. And anti-depressents sound like a good idea.... he may need quite a few of thse.

[cazzz1975]

sounds like the russian to be honest red, same level of disdain for people, rudeness and self dillusion.

she was a hairy moley er I mean mary!!

[blu3wave]

cazz, i have a strong suspicion, that you are quite quite large, and were deeply offended by my FAT posts. I'm sorry you are fat, go on a diet and do more exercise. Dont get mad, get fit and stop stuffing your face. Hope this helps and good luck sweetie :)

[4getmenot]

take him out with you to laugh at the 'fat girl' that'll cheer him up

[4GS]

I've seen photo's of cazz and believe me, she's not large!!

[4getmenot]

what do you do if you're frumpy?

[redcrx]

and where will he get a referral for any help groups or any medication if he wont see his GP then.

talking on here wont make a difference blu, this guy (if hes depressed) needs to see his GP.

end of, nothing else you can do

[redcrx]

not the russian, just a poor immitation. The real russian left a year ago Im sure.

[blu3wave]

How can I make this clearer? THIS POST IS ABOUT MY FRIEND WHO IS DEPRESSED, LONELY AND NEEDS HELP.

Now, how can I help him? Should he join clubs? I was thinking of taking him clubbing one of these days... .only he is not a good dancer, in fact, last time he danced was in 1987! But heyho, i'll get my friends and we'll take him out. He needs all the help he can get. poor thing

[bigmamma]

blu3wave are you male ?

[redcrx]

dragging a depressed person to a club will not help them. Just because you enjoy clubbing doesnt mean its a cure for all ills.

GET HIM TO SEE HIS GP. a few nights out are not a cure for depression.

[4getmenot]

yes it started off well then you posted again. YOU turned it into a fat post no-one else. If you really want to help your friend its would be best coming from someone that thinks about others and isnt self obsessed