what do u think?

[red_dragon]

I know someone (male) who when they were 13 was caught on cctv pleasuring themselves while touching a younger boy of about 8. This person now has a new son. How much of a risk to the baby would you think this person would be.

Would you say they were a paeodophile in the making or something else?

[jackthehat]

erm.........Neil.

I'm not sure if we are singing from the same hymn sheet here.........surely you're not agreeing with me ?

[Neilzulu1]

Yes Jack, i agree with you. Sorry for the winding up comments as well.

[jackthehat]

Apology accepted :o)

[4getmenot]

so would it be wrong for adults to play with Barbies?? lol

[red_dragon]

Ok I never expected so many answers. It is a very serious question, I am kind of family related although not by blood. He is known to social services so I cant say too much but they have said he is allowed contact with the baby once every 3 weeks. He is now 19.
I am not sure what to think of him, I can't make out if he would be a danger or not. He seems a very nice person but I know you cannot trust your judgement of people always.

[Rubyrose]

I think everyone deserves the benefit of doubt and he is a lot older now and probably regrets what he did. You can't hold it against him for the rest of his life.

[4getmenot]

I'd say let it be and as long as social services are involved it will be ok. But we know thats not true

[4getmenot]

employers

[Rubyrose]

Wow G4GS, anyone would think you were my boss! Like I give a sh!t what you think! I only have work when people give me work.

[red_dragon]

but are the social services right to only let him see his new son every 3 weeks?

[Panic Button]

Perhaps they have other reasons

[B00]

There has to be more to this story surely? I can't believe social services would be so closely involved in this extremely mild form of sexual experimentation.Is there more that you're not telling us Red Dragon? I understand if there is that you might not be able to tell us but i'm baffled.

[Rubyrose]

I do think thats a bit harsh! 3 weeks to see your kid. Surely thats a bit drastic?

[jackthehat]

You posted an attention-grabbing question to which you received fair responses...........
You are now drip-feeding us additional information........
Either tell us everything or finish this now.
If the 'authorities' are already involved there will be a set of circumstances to which you as 'kind of family related' are not privvy.................nor are we.

[Pippa68]

I agree with PB ~ is there a court order in place which details contact with his child?

There may well be other reasons for this limited contact.

[4getmenot]

they must have something on him

[4getmenot]

I dont see whats funny

[red_dragon]

I am family related which is why they have told me this information about him. The only other thing i know is that he was abused by his family , which may or may not be continuing I dont know.
I posted this question to gain people's opinions about this. Why does everything always turn into an argument on this site?
I dont know if there is a court
The point is, I agree, I think once every 3 weeks seems a bit harsh. I have never had contact with social services before but the way they operate seems kind of odd. They are guessing that once every 3 weeks means he would be safer than once a week? I don't see what difference that would make.
The point is , how can anyone tell from what he did whether he would pose a danger or not?