The biggest argument of all

[chesnuts]

2nite i have had the argument from hell with my husband u can not believe, his mam lives with us as does his 17 year old son and my 2 dogs, i feel utterly shattered and worn out, i am scared 4 my dogs and am hospital 2moro to have 2 biopsies on my face for a mark that cud b skin cancer i feel so unhappy i dont know wot to do or where to turn dusnt life suck. and to those of you who hate text talk i am sorry but tonight i am not bothered i just want some friendly answers not putting me down because i have said "cos" or txt talke d but becos y the heck shud us women who take on our fellas family have to be the bad un and yep i knew wot i was getting myself in for but i thought if i at least stuck up 4 his mam wen he calls her a reatd (She has had a stroke) and his son becos he loves him, wot am i doing i have my own problems anyone who remembers me knows i already have two broken legs apparently they r talking the casts off in 2 weeks time but i am getting grief off work too, hell of a life eh?
Please go easy on me 2nite i have *** on here looking for friendship and a nice word not horribleness, thanks

[Louisa 69]

aww Chestnuts i'm sorry your having a hard time. Familys can be very difficult at times. It's always those that we're close to that hurt us the most. Good luck for tomorrow i'll keep my fingers crossed that it's not bad news. (((((hugs))))) take care xx

[tiggerblue10]

I don't really know what to say chesnut. Your husband sounds like he has got his head up his @rse. You don't say what the row was about. Maybe you don't want to. Why are you scared for your dogs? Is he likely to do something to them? Is there anywhere you can go for the night with the dogs?

[chesnuts]

thanks guys, woteva is wrong with my face u kinda think ok i can do this, but wen it cums 2 the crunch its so scarey im gonna be the only fool limping in there on 2 crutches, aware that on Tuesday I cud lose my job after there meeting and I cud lose my house etc and my family if i can calll them that r well not really supportive, i cud start anuthe thread on how yr guy treats u a nd how u cope. My dad anyhow has been great

[bigmamma]

Hello chestnuts , I remember your last thread love and know you broke both legs at home . I expect you would indeed be scared as you can't really go anywhere with plasters on. You have your biopsies tomorrow , please try to settle to get some much needed sleep tonight if you can . I wish you all the best for tomorrow and hope you are ok . You have friendly people on here to talk to and who are willing to listen . All the best . ( hug ) xx

[chesnuts]

my husband is in bed now snoring, wen i say i a m scared for the dogs thank god its always usually temporarily, i never ever thought he wud hurt them until my niece told me that she wud stopcuming due to the fact he had spoken to the dogs and his mam so badly, i know its alcohol that makes him like this

[Marvelman]

Hi, most skin cancers on the face are very treatable and are removed quite pain free, you shure have some problems, i wish you well and hope that life gets better for you in the future.

[chesnuts]

bigmamma thankyou so much, i am sitting here like a wimp crying its so pathetic isnt it but i cant help it, every noise i can here i think its him i have had at least 4 ciggies and even tho i know i shud turn the pc off just incase i just want to fel stronger and go to bed with strong thoughts in my head

[chesnuts]

marvelman thankyou, i am actually more nervous about the tests, its the way my husband and stepson has gone on with me that hurts the most, my consultant even sed if it is skin cancer there is an 80 percent chance they can cut it out. i just wish i had sum suport does that sound pathetic.

[lindapinda]

You are going through a really stressful time Chesnuts,I can't begin to imagine how awful it all is. It looks like so many things are happening at once and maybe tempers are getting the best of everyone,and things are being said that nobody really means. Hope things improve soon.

[chesnuts]

thanks Lindapinda its more the argument than the cancer scare, if he really loves me, then y or how cud he do this

[lindapinda]

I don't know what all's been happening in your situation,it seems like there's been a lot of stress for you all. Maybe your husband can't deal with the change in the mother he has known,you are now "in need" too,so he is reacting badly,and taking it out on you.Thats no comfort to you chesnuts I know.

[society]

Hi Chestnut,

I feel for you and imagine how hurt you must be. You are strong and brave, and everything will work out in your favour in the end. Trying times like these makes us stronger. Just continue to do what is right, good for you for sticking up for your mother-in-law. God will give you strength and courage to overcome your obstacles and these problems. Stay well xx
Hi Chestnut,

I feel for you and imagine how hurt you must be. You are strong and brave, and everything will work out in your favour in the end. Trying times like these makes us stronger. Just continue to do what is right, good for you for sticking up for your mother-in-law. God will give you strength and courage to overcome your obstacles and these problems. Stay well xx

[chesnuts]

he has just woken up accused me of talking to a boyfriend online if i suddenly disappear its becos i cant talk anymore

[chesnuts]

no nobody knows me on here this is not a chat for people to talk but offer me help, sum 1 has told me to ring the samaritans, is that not better help than sum1 asking sum 1 else do i know u? that is selfish

[chesnuts]

To the abber that told me to call the samaritans rite now thats how i feel but wot can they do? i have had more support from the gud guys on her and the precious words, the kindness, they have shared and even tho iwill probably listen to the pathetic excuses of my husbnd 2moro at least sum o f have tried to help not only about my mum in law but about me. i thank you guys 4 that more than u cud ever know. and if i do have skin cancer they can get rid of it nowdays, my consultant told me that, i may be left with a big scar but i will be alive, so if you guys know each other or know me then maybe u mite for once in yr life take sorry for me and realize that I and I alone deal with the whole family