will he ever be mine?

[spenny1969]

hi i would really love come advise. i met a man i used to be friends with when i was 11 years old and i havnt seen him for 27 years till 2 months ago. we started seeing each other every night except the weekend cos he said he went out with his mates he even started coming before he went to work in a morning and told me he was in love with me. then he told me he was married to a woman who treats him badly and has affairs, but by this time i had fallen in love with him and couldnt stop seeing him. he eventually left her and came to me but it didnt last he went back to her cos he missed his kids and said next time he goes is when she starts treating him badly . i was distraught but said i would wait. we carried on as before but last sat i text him when i was drunk to say i loved him but i was fed up he was still with her ,but his wife read the text and kicked him out so back he came to me and promised this time it was for good and we will be together forever. on tues morning he went to work and told me he loved me and said he will see me tonight but i never heard anything all night so i rang his phone and it was switched off so on weds he text me to say he went back to her cos it was his fault not hers and he cant cope without his kids especially now his 15 yearsold son has got a girl pregnant. and he cant see me anymore and he told his wife all about me he said she is going to try to change but he cant see me cos its not fair on her if he is still seeing me but he said now she knows of his affair its scared her and she dont want to lose him. he said he will always love me but not to wait 4 him but he said if it dont work with her he hopes im still single. i know he loves me but i dont know whether to wait for him has anyone been in a similar situation that can help me understand why he has done this cos my heart is broken. we spent so much time together and had so many plans. i miss him so much and just want him back

[cazzz1975]

well said jodie!

[feist]

Not necessarliy, she could have pretended to believe him coz she dint care much about his other life, its not just the guy who can be cunning and manipulative.
Who's the one who can walk away from it again?

[jodie73]

Well who's left with her 'heart broken'? Not him that's for sure! I'm just sayin she knew what she was getting involved with. She needs to get over it and go for a singleton next time!x

[feist]

how do you know he isnt, he sounds like a soppy loser, why does he keep crawling back and forth between this girl and his wife. I'm sure spenny's first Q to a bloke will be 'are you single' from now on.x

[spenny1969]

can i just say i slept with him when i didn't know he was married and another thing I'm out of an 18 year marriage I'm not naive and young I'm 38 years old and know when someone loves me and he does. looking back on my first thread i seem young and stupid but I'm far from it I'm messed up , heartbroken and confused and needed someone to tell me to hang in there. he has a rubbish life with his wife and i don't pass judgement cos i ain't his wife. but i know how i feel and i know how he feels so someone please tell me about similar situation so i know its worth the wait PLEASE

[spenny1969]

im ****** off with all the negative responses. im not the first woman who has fallen for a married man and i wont be the last so give me a break.

[mrstrunchbul]

im just going through a divorce at the moment with my cheating ex and he is now living with the cow who broke my marraige up. BUT DID SHE the answer is no she didnt he did he gave everything up his wife his kids his life and all that he knew. cos he took a chance he is now happy with her cos he took a gamble and it seems to have paid off. he sees his kids now. he may love you but he cant love you enough or he would be with you, i dont want to seem hard but face the truth spenny his wife and kids come first until he realises that he can be happy with you. you cant do a thing about it but ride it out if thats what you want do. it may be worth the wait but only u know that cos we at AB DONT KNOW HIM. please keep us up to date cos i am interested how things go in this sorry mess

[fluffykitten]

i`ve never been a doormat, just laugh at these sort of threads, people open themselves up for abuse and i will give it!!
keep your sob stories away from AB or i`ll carry on laughing!!! he lusts after u, not love or he would be with u

dont turn into a boring ole gal and move on

[mrstrunchbul]

fluffykitten she came on here for help and as you can see she is new to AB so stop being so hard on her. keep your opinions to yourself if u aint got anything nice to say to her.. spenny give him an ultimatum and find out fotr sure if you are going to be with him.

[ChocolatChip]

If you had taken notice spenny, no-one has been knocking you.
If you believe that you're not being 'naive' in this situation- The what would you say to someone in the same position that you didn't know?

I doubt you'd say 'wait for him, it'll be a fairytale ending'

And I agree with mrstrunchbal, she might be called fluffykitten but goodness, she's a cold-hearted b*tch!

[fluffykitten]

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz this thread still going? bet spennys taking him back already, or is she going to keep on moaning that shes been shat on again?

lets all act like real women and not like something i wipe my feet on after a run in the hills (mud, cr�ap, heather on my shoes)

[ChocolatChip]

If real women are like you- I'd rather be mud. Thanks.

[mrstrunchbul]

you bitter twisted excuse for a woman you are as cold as ice. i think u should stop answering on AB cos u aint nice. so do us all a favour and bog off back to your very own sad life which is probally being alone watching tv cos no man wants a cold hearted woman like you. GET SOME COMPASSION before you die a spinster

[spenny1969]

thank you Mrs trunchbul and chocolatchip for putting her in her place . people like fluffykitten don't worry me. and for your info fluff i wasn't moaning about being shat on i was hoping for advise and i also haven't taken him back YET but here's hoping. one day you might fall in love and want advise yourself and you prob will being an ice maiden but i hope you don't get anyone like yourself giving advise cos it stinks !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[fluffykitten]

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

just had more fun having blood tests!!!

have u taken him back ? go on, it will be another bout of fun for us abers

then we can start a bet, see how long he stays this time!!!!!

[spenny1969]

yes fluff i have taken him back. u have your fun cos im certainly going to have mine, and not everybody is like you, you sad twisted witch