Christmas presents for spoilt brat!

[hippyhoppy]

Split with my husband at Easter so am I in charge of buying his spoilt niece a present ? So should I just leave it to him ( bearing in mind that he dosen't even buy his own kids presents!)

[cazzz1975]

then why ask the question if you already know the answer...?

[smudge]

If you're not going to be meeting up with your in-laws again hippyhoppy, then yes that would be a first step, but what happens if your children still want to see their other aunties & uncles, etc.? This is what I mean about it being a difficult situation to be in...

[Louisa 69]

Im with Cazzz on this one.
Christmas is a time for goodwill, how about a tiny token gesture you don't have to spend a lot, it's the thought that counts.

[Octavius]

You clearly don't want to buy this girl a present, so why on earth are you asking?

As said if you feel that hostile towards her then just leave it be. Or do as suggested and tell them how skint you are and your priority os to your opwn kids. Keeping going on about her being a spoilt brat makes you look a teensy bit jealous. I'm guesing you are not a teenager any more.

[cazzz1975]

you wouldnt think it from the posts though oct !

[hippyhoppy]

I used to but ALL the presents, for everyone. Do I still do that even though a) he's left and b) I'm poor. If I don't get her a pressie then is it my fault? although he own fricikng uncle is quite capable..

[smudge]

Glad you agree Octavious, I would do what I suggested & tell them she's on a tight budget since her ex left!

It's patently obvious by now that you really don't want to buy for your neice hippy, so only you can make the final decision.

Sleep well all.

[cazzz1975]

seems to me that there are more issues than just getting a present for a niece, like oct says, explain your situation..there is no shame in this, plan xmas for your own children and dont fester away with resentment and bitterness, move forward, make xmas special for you and your family.

Im sure everyone would inderstand your position.

[hippyhoppy]

Do you think I'm jealous of an overweight ,spoit, eleven yearold? I'm just glad my children are happy with what they have and not expect what I can't possibly deliver...

[smudge]

* niece even!

Whatever happens, I hope you have a lovely Christmas with your children.

Nite, nite.

[cazzz1975]

hippy, you have really got issues about your niece, its probably better for her that you are not involved in her life..

you are an adult arnt you??

[smudge]

cazz - I had already suggested what Oct has posted on the previous page!

No harm whatsoever explaining to your in-laws that you're on a tight budget now hippy...

[cazzz1975]

sorry smudge!, I missed that :O

[hippyhoppy]

Hello - yes mother to two - wife to minuus one as he didn't lile the mess this children made... fair - not but typical as most children make mess.. If I don;t get he a pressie am I pressie? that's the evil aunt Di - Or should Uncle Martin get the pressie ? that's the ?

[Octavius]

Oh dear lord, the poor mite is only 11. If you want to get back at your ex-husband there must be other ways. But I would suggest with the extent of hatred you have towards her she may well be better off without you.

Either send a small gift and wish her a lovely Christmas from you and your children (her cousins) or explain your situation as said, or just don't send anything and ignore her/them for the rest of your lives.

Once you have decided on that you might want to look at growing up a bit and raising your children to not inherit your petty spitefulness.

[cazzz1975]

if he is no longer with you and you feel the animosty then you dont get them a pressie, in an ideal world you buy the niece a small inexpensive gift or put a fiver in a xmas card.
As you feel quite hateful toward the niece in particular then leave it.

maybe you need to talk to them, it sounds like you dont, you need to remark that xmas will be a small affair as you have just enough to buy for your kids, they will get the message....

kids should never pay the cost for adults arguments

[Louisa 69]

If it was me i would buy a little prezzie ie a book or selection box all you need to do is spend a few pounds.

[smudge]

That's okay cazz - I don't always read all the threads myself!

I'm really looking forward to Christmas, although it can be a stressful time leading up to it - that's why it might be best to either buy a token gift, smellies or something & leave it at that - or explain what I suggested earlier about finances, then let the relationship with the in-laws fizzle out.

[cazzz1975]

how old are you hippy?? you always came accross okay in chatterbank normally?

[smudge]

Posts crossed cazz - we all seem to be expressing the same sentiments here.....