Christmas presents for spoilt brat!

[hippyhoppy]

Split with my husband at Easter so am I in charge of buying his spoilt niece a present ? So should I just leave it to him ( bearing in mind that he dosen't even buy his own kids presents!)

[cazzz1975]

why do you feel this way about his neice? does she know that you have this opinion of her ...

[Beads]

No way! Let the ex get it and perhaps his family will see how well he was looked after when he was with you!

[dot.hawkes]

no, don;t be as small minded and mean as he is, this is still your kid's family, which they may need one day, carry on and ask her mum what the girl would like.

[spottychops]

not related so dont bother, i only get pressies from closer relaitives

[steve garrar]

if you are not with him anymore why do you feel you should buy his neice a present ? would you sign it from the both of you ? i presume she is a child

[spottychops]

give the money to children in need and send her a card with the receipt!! that will shut her up if shes that spoilt!!

[hippyhoppy]

She get's every thing she wants always - hence spoilt - and when my children see that and question me on why thay can't have the latest WHATEVER I have to say that I earn peanuts and lets us play 'connect four'. If I said that to Chloe she would throw a fit!!!

[Beads]

Although - on second thoughts - if you've been with him for absolutely years and care about her then you could. But if she's a brat I am not sure I'd bother...do your kids get on well with her?

[hippyhoppy]

No - in fact they hate having to go there. I like the old 'given to charity thing'. She'd bloody hate it!

[smudge]

If it were me, I would explain to your neices parents (the inlaws), that you are on a very tight budget since you & your husband split up. I would also say that you can only just about afford to buy your own children Christmas presents, hint, hint.

You never know, it may even nudge your ex's memory to buy for his children.

Having said that, if you are going to meet up with your in-laws & neice, you may feel a bit uncomfortable without a gift to give her. Good luck.

[smudge]

Crossed posts - if she's a spoilt brat & your own children can't stand her, then p'raps you shouldn't bother!

[hippyhoppy]

To be brutally honest she gets what she wants whenever he wants. He left me so why should I remined the man that left me to do stuff to endear him to his very own family...?

[hippyhoppy]

That makes no sense at all!

[smudge]

I totally agree hippyhoppy - hence my last post!

I personally wouldn't bother, 'specially knowing your husband left you & doesn't bother with his own!

Some people!!!!

[cazzz1975]

its not her fault she gets everything she wants....why be totally mean? you are the grown up and yes I agree that if you are no longer together maybe a small token inexpensive gift or a card would suffice, you need to sign it from just you (to highlight that you are not with her uncle) .

you shouldnt resent someone who can afford new things, life is too short, this girl may be missing out on spending quality time with her parents and so they overspend on gifts to make up for it, If your kids are happy then thats all that matters, dont get drawn into a keeping up with the jones' battle, you will only be left feeling resentful and stressed which will not make for a happy family

[smudge]

....But I'd still suggest what I wrote in my first post, that way it might open a few people's eyes in his family too - you are alone & still have your own children to buy for.

[hippyhoppy]

Why am I beaing mean? a) she's my ex husbands neice there for not blood relative....b) I can afford to by her a board game...nothing computer-ish or game boy-ish. This will will be opened with dirision...and then chucked in the nearest bin..eughhh

[smudge]

I also understand cazz's sentiments too.

It's a very difficult situation to be in when a family splits up, but I don't know them, so shouldn't really say.

I think it would play on my mind if I broke off the present giving ritual, but then we're all different.

[cazzz1975]

If you feel that hostile maybe now your husband has left it is the perfect excuse to phase them all out of your life

[hippyhoppy]

bingo!