Dunno what to do

[justasking]

Imagine this...You meet a really nice man but you have issues about yourself that won't be fixed till 6 weeks time. What do you do when he wants to get intimate and you can't? What do you say? Please someone tell me what you would do cause i really like him but i havent got the confidence to do that untill the issue is fixed, and i can't speak about the issue so telling him is pretty much out of the question. Is 6 weeks a long time to wait for more than a kiss?

[skyep]

justasking - Abstinence makes the heart grow stronger lol!!!
Don't know how you'll do it, good luck xxx

[Mr k]

Tell him you have things to sort out in your mind your not pushing him away. You just need time to sort your head out and will keep in touch but in about 6 weeks time it will be sorted. If the guy really is genuine he will wait as long as he See's your not taking the Pi**..

[SRH]

It's not long at all! I was a third date girl till I met my fella - and we waited for six weeks, due to a combination of me being really nervous (felt like the first time ever that it might be something really amazing - and didn't want to mess things up) and not having the opportunity. Have to say that it's the best I've ever had - and those six weeks were great - lots of snogging etc really built up the tension (ooer!) and when it did happen it was well worth the wait! If he's got anything about him then he'll wait... good luck!

[skyep]

Mr K - Were you not my you tube mentor? xxx

[justasking]

Mr k, i dont wanna tell him that because i don't wanna go without seeing him for 6 weeks. I want to see him as much as i can but just not get intimate for 6 weeks.

[Mr k]

Well still see him but tell him your not ready for i guess you mean sex ...
If i really liked a female six weeks is worth the wait as long as you make him feel wanted in other ways...
No im not skyep.... but i will still send you a x back

[Mr k]

There is no rush in getting intimate only do it when your ready..
Don't end up like the ones near me who jump out of bed from one man then into a bed with another..
Really you don't have to say anything to him if he tries it on tell him he can wait..
As all good things to those who waits and he will respect you more as a person..
Knowing that you don't just jump into bed straight away

[Ethel]

Six weeks is nothing - but if you aren't sure enough of him to tell him this, you don't know him well enough to be having sex with him anyway.

[paulos66]

Six weeks is a rather long course of antibiotics

[Scarlett]

Six weeks is nothing. More people should wait 6 weeks!! At least then you will know i he really likes YOU or not- if he is prepared to wait a little bit! if not- you are best off without him anyway!

[Skreecheeboy]

Could you be any more vague? Perhaps if you were to tell us what your "problem" is we would have a better idea of how you could "solve it." It's an annonymous website don't you know?

[paulos66]

screech I'm guessing gum clinic

[4GS]

If he respects you then, as others have said, 6 weeks is nothing, and you be intimate without it leading to full penetrative sex, you can use more ahem manual methods.

[jno]

you're entitled to your privacy, especially this early in a relationship. Just tell him what you've said here: you need to wait for a while and there's a private reason which you don't want to talk about for a while. You can tell him later if the relationship develops. If he walks out on you, good riddance I would say. If not then, as 4GS says, there are other things you can do while waiting

[Octavius]

Is there any chance he might find out after 6 weeks anyway? As said your inference to getting 'fixed' just creates idle gossip and speculation.

How long have you been together already? Has it just started? In which case 6 weeks really is nothing at all. If you have been together for a while and you haven't got intimate yet, then either he is being respectful or just wondering what on earth is wrong. (Maybe you could always talk it through, without being too specific???) Its not a sex change is it?

If it is the latter and it has been sometime, an additional 6 weeks might carve a wedge if you don't start communicating something. Time is not really the factor (some of has to wait 6 blinking months in soime relationships!) it is the communication and common understanding that leads to long term commitment and trust.

[paulos66]

Give up entirely - relationships are built on trust and you've got something to hide (I'm hoping not literally, but Oct may have a point)

[jno]

trust isn't the same thing as spilling your guts, Paulos. People are entitled to have secrets, especially about things that happened before a relationship started; and it cuts both ways. If justasking really doesn't want to talk about it, then it's up to her man to decide whether he trusts her or not. Communication is good in a relationship but it doesn't require you to give people your entire life story from day 1.

[justasking]

Lol@ all of the comments! No thankfully i don't have an std or anything like that but i was prescribed tabs from my doc (Not std tablets lol) which i was elergic to and it messed up my (body skin) Real bad and it will take about a month to 6 weeks to heal.

[REDHEAD24]

is it some sort of std u have??
if so some can clear up with antibiotics

no six weeks aint , my first bloke had to wait 3 months before he got in my pants , it weretn worth it mind u he was a rat