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is it morally wrong to hate your mother, even if you have numerous very very valid reasons to do so, just because she gave birth to you?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I think morals are entirely a personal choice.
There is a strong sociological argument that your parents dserve your love and respect, but it's not a theory i subscribe to.
I have my childrens' love and respect, because i have worked very hard at my relationships with them I don't expect these emotions by right - children are individuals, you form bonds or you don't.
My mother tells me she loves me, but never demonstrates it in a way I understand, and never has, as long as I have been aware of what love is.
I appreciate your perspective, and your discomfort at your situation, but you must work with your feelings, and your choices, and not be swayed by the views of the wider population.
There is a strong sociological argument that your parents dserve your love and respect, but it's not a theory i subscribe to.
I have my childrens' love and respect, because i have worked very hard at my relationships with them I don't expect these emotions by right - children are individuals, you form bonds or you don't.
My mother tells me she loves me, but never demonstrates it in a way I understand, and never has, as long as I have been aware of what love is.
I appreciate your perspective, and your discomfort at your situation, but you must work with your feelings, and your choices, and not be swayed by the views of the wider population.
i just needed a rough idea to see if im not the only one.
ive heard of children disliking their fathers back in the day due to them being very harsh. lets just say for the past 7 years i have never felt the smallest ounce of happiness. and im seriously not over exaggerating. all thanx to a woman i have to call mother.
ive heard of children disliking their fathers back in the day due to them being very harsh. lets just say for the past 7 years i have never felt the smallest ounce of happiness. and im seriously not over exaggerating. all thanx to a woman i have to call mother.
not at all.
but hate is a very strong word.
but i suppose used in this context it's acceptable.
you can only hate someone you have once loved.
i can honestly say that i have said on many a time that i hate my dad, mainly because sometimes, he is horrible. but i also know that, we dont get along with some people because we are too alike. this might be the case with you and your mum. it certainly is with me and my dad.
hope this helps.
sara xx
but hate is a very strong word.
but i suppose used in this context it's acceptable.
you can only hate someone you have once loved.
i can honestly say that i have said on many a time that i hate my dad, mainly because sometimes, he is horrible. but i also know that, we dont get along with some people because we are too alike. this might be the case with you and your mum. it certainly is with me and my dad.
hope this helps.
sara xx
Love is earned-it is not an automatiic right.....the fact that a person is your mother(or father) by birthdoes not entitle them to your love...love or hate is an emotion in response to care/abuse,teaching/ignoring,protecting/hurting. If,for whatever reason ,your mother has hurt,ignored you over the years...you should not feel guilty for how you feel about her....i know we should be able to forgive others for how they may treat us...but that is not always possible.
I'm in a simila position to you. I wouldn't say I hate my mum but I very strongly dislike her following things she has done over the years. It was my decision 6 years ago to cut all ties because the upset became too much. I haven't seen or spoken to her since and she has made no effort to contact me. Now I'm not saying you should do the same but you should think about what will make you happy and try not to please others all the time at the expense of your own happyness.