Get over a girl of my love.

[dinesh_sheaf]

Hi, I love this girl and we have been going out for 3 years. And one Easter after, after the service was over in church, we went for a lunch and i prayed to God to give her to me as my life partner. But she told me that she want to break off during our lunch.. But she is a person i love and want to be with. It has been nearly a year since we broke up. But i cant get over her. I still keep thinking of her and i dont like to hang out with other girls as she comes into my mind always. How do you think i should get over her.. Please help..

[andy hughes]

Getting over a heartbreak takes a long, and painful time, but it does get better. You need to spend time with your friends, go out, enjoy yourself, and let life take its course a little. If you find a girl you like, go with your insitcts, although it will be painful at first. You may feel 'disloyal' to your love, but this is a false feeling, and you mustnot give in to it. You will never forget this time in your life, but you have to move on from it, and remember the good times you had, and allow the experience to enrich your future life, not hold it in the past. This terrible pain will pass, but you have to give it a helping hand. Take life nice and slowly, and don't rush into anything just yet. Enjoy some female company, and wait for someone else to come into your life. You are obviously a kind and sensitive person, a rarity in this world as any girl wil tell you! Keep going, and deal with the pain when it hits, and move on when it's leaving you alone. Life and love are hard, but worth it.

[kags]

Excellent insight from andy hughes as always - there's not much I can add except to say there really is no set time for getting over something like this, some people can bounce back from the break up of a relationship quicker than others, and so andy is absolutely right when he says take life slowly. It will take as long as it takes, but it really will start to get better - honest! You don't have to get into a relationship with someone else until you are ready, but allow yourself to enjoy the company of others, male and female, and try to take comfort from the fact that, although you loved this person, the relationship wasn't right if she wasn't willing to accept what you have to offer.

[David H]

Being an extremely romantic type nearly always ending in failure (right up to the present) I had to learn a way to protect myself from a constant series of major let downs. I developed a 24 hour rule nearly 30 years ago, and decided I'd train myself to allow a woman to ruin my life for 1 day after rejecting me, and that was it. I was recently let down as usual by a woman I'd been working on for 6 months gradually, and imagined being married her for God's sake! She had always been nice, paid me lots of compliments etc., but when push came to shove it meant nothing. I felt like cack, as anyone would, but the next day I said to myself 'OK, 24 hours have passed, back to life' and it worked. It's really a form of self-hypnosis and though tough to retrain is definitely possible to get at least some way to 24 hours, and any reduction will be better.

[kingsme]

Hello Do not loose hope. May be the girl to try your love whether you love truely. Ok Keep on trying her hand. Ok

[gemagination]

First love is the hardest thing in the world to get over, but you do get there, or somewhere near. the greatest thing about it is the fact that you had the opportunity to feel this feeling and that for a while she felt it back. do not however, sell yourself short, you must welcome each new day that brings new possibilities, you never know who or what might be around the corner, but there is always something. I write this from a place a year after my heart was well and truly broken for the first time, and that still carries the scars - but this is the rich tapestry that we call life so i say go out have some fun, shake your ass and appreciate the little things - it's worked so far for me xxx good luck