men paying on a date

[red_dragon]

HI I have recently met up with a guy and we had a drink together. I am due to see him again this week as it's my birthday and he said we would get together to celebrate.
He has suggested a beer festival and said he would book a b & b which I'[m ok with.
He has said today that we are to go halves on the b & b.
I feel a bit put out by this and I'm not sure if I should be.
I live 50 miles away from where this beer festival is so have to either drive there and back or catch the train, both of which would cost money, let alone paying half for the b & b. Am I being unreasonable seeing as it is my birthday?

[Postdog]

Just to say that there are guys out there who

(a) would not take you to a beer festival for YOUR birthday

and

(b) treat you.

As it's recent, I'd try picking another.

[red_dragon]

Well you never know, it is the 00ties!

I don't know whether to not go or go and try and enjoy the experience. Where have all the good guys gone by the way, they seem to be thin on the ground lately ;o)

[CHOPSUEY]

A beer festival, one room/bed and he's got you paying half? From a fellas point - what a guy! From a womans - run a mile.

[sausagemash]

dont even go he sounds like a t*****r!
my boyfriend took me out for a meal and to a hotel last night just cos i've had a bad week....bumped my car and spilt tea all over all my work yesterfay!

[red_dragon]

Yeah my warning bells appear to be correct then judging my a couple of these answers.

[mrs_overall]

I think he's having a laugh!
The advice from your auntie overall is - ditch him!

[Ice.Maiden]

If he really values your company, he wouldn't let you travel on your own - he'd come and pick you up, or pay for your fare.
The B & B sounds ropey as well. The least he could do would be to book into a decent hotel!
Very much sounds as though he's just after one thing. I'm sure you're worth more than that.

[yinyang]

Is the the same bloke as the question above?
You mean you're going to go all that way, spend your birthday at a beer festival, pay for half and the guy won't even have - um - 'breakfast in bed' with you!

[Ice.Maiden]

Yes..I wondered that too!!

There are still some very decent guys out there, red_dragon. but you're never going to find one if you don't raise your standards. xx

[Hitler]

tell him you are on your period. see if he wants to see you then.

[CHOPSUEY]

Some freaks like that...

[filthiestfis]

red_dragon:
Please dump this guy pronto! Not only does he plan to use you for sex but he is not interested in your interests, he just wants to get you drunk and bed you. If he was a decent guy he would pay for the hotel at the very least. He doesnt want to give you oral sex either? What a nice bloke...NOT!!!

[red_dragon]

Yep u guessed it - same guy.
Methinks I'm onto a loser, god knows I'm finding out lately there are quite a few out there lol

[filthiestfis]

What attracted you to him?

[andy-hughes]

I think it is rather ungallant of him to expect you to pay half - after all it is your birthday.

I'm inclined to go with the majority here. If you like him, make an excuse not to go, and see if he re-arranges a treat for your birthday - or in fact if he calls at all!

That will be a measure of where this is all going.

[Roy262]

As you said you have only recently met the guy lets turn things around here...
If it was his birthday would you pay for everything ? i doubt it so why should he.
What he might be doing is testing you to see if your prepared to pay then say he is paying.
I have paid in the past for females only to have the P!ss taken, So i can see his point of veiw in one way.

[Roy262]

Sorry i might have read the post wrong...
If you have to travel 50 miles on your own there and back and your paying sod that dump him now...
Anyway have a great birthday when every its it x

[Bewlay Bros]

I am of the opinion that the man should ALWAYS pay. Whether this is the first, second or 1000,000th date. And most definately on your birthday!!!!

I shall leave "going dutch" for the bloody cheese eating blondies from Holland.

[toby99]

Hi Red_Dragon - Take yourself out of the 'picture' for a moment what would you say to this..... ?

Woman meets man for drink and he suggests that on there second date they go and drink beer and have sex in a B&B. Girl agrees, so he thinks that was easy and that he doesn't have to bother to impress her, so then suggests she pays for the privilege .. oh and travel 50 miles!!

You are worth more and you should expect to receive respect. There are plenty of good men out there!, How old is by btw?