have just come out the other side of all this and almost feel back to normal, so what i would say is that for most people it is just a matter of living through it. i have been taking a menopause product from 'boots' for about 3 years now and really find that helps a lot, particularly with the hot flushes and night sweats. i think when they're at their worst nothing but hrt really works, but these 'menopause' things contain lots of stuff (including evening primrose, borage, flax, magnesium, calcium) which help with many of the menopause symptoms, and in my opinion are definitely worth a go. you do need to take them for at least 3 months though, don't give up after a few days. also, find a forum all about menopause and you'll be able to read about all sorts of women's stories and solutions, and ask your own questions too. just sharing your story with a bunch of other ladies going throught the same thing is, i found, a great help.