anyone like me

[gigipop]

does anyone (please tell me they do) ever feel that you are totally useless, i dont know why i get out of bed half the time only to take my kids to school. i have no job, everything i do seems to turn to ****, i cook i clean - i cook and i clean thats me end of.....who am i and what am i doing here. i need somthing in my life and i dont know what?any suggestions.please!!!!!

[MustangLady]

p.s. don't start taking anti-depressents. It's not something you want to get hooked on, they only give a 'smoke-screen' to the problem and don't resolve anything. You are the one who can help yourself. Think positive, write down your good parts and what you have achieved over the years and start today as you mean to go on.... Good Luck. ML x

[Lonnie]

Hi gigipop,
Mums are the most important people in the world, you create life, and nurture it,
Your job is more important than any other, so please try and look at it in that light,

Be proud, and hold your head up high, if your kids make you proud, its you thats done it.

Now that you have some spare time, how about some Charity work?, that self rewarding, whilst helping others.

You've got some excellent advice in the above posts, just up to you to take it,

Apologies Ray, just realised i've said something very close to what you've written.

[blackrosie]

Hi, I know exactly how you feel. I went for 15 years just being a mum. Then when my youngest turned 5 and went to school, I thought hey, I want to do something. So at the age of 37 I went to college and trained to be a nursery nurse. I had to submit myself to the humiliation of being older than all the 16 and 17 year olds. However, at the end of it we all became really good friends (if you can believe it!) So, being 'just a mum' is great when you have to be, but a time will come when you will get out there and do something!
I am now working in a school and loving every minute!
If you want to really get out there, you can. I did!!!!

[blackrosie]

by the way, I forgot to say, that I still feel that I am just a mum, now helping other peoples children as well as my own, but NOW I am getting paid for it......LOL

[helliebobs]

gigipop, I can only echo what everyone else has said although I don't agree totally with MustangLady's view on anti depressants.
I'm trying to build my self confidence after taking a few knocks recently so I know how hard it is but really, you do have to 'big yourself up', it bloody works!
Next time someone compliments you (I find it really hard to accept compliments) agree with them. So if someone says "God gigipop, your hair looks great today!" you should say "Yeah thanks, it looks pretty good!" or say something like "Yeah I am quite fantastic really aren't I?" - I go through phases where I say this, particularly to unrulyjulie :)
My other favourite thing to do is repeat to myself "I ******* rock!" when i'm feeling down. Obviously you don't need to swear if you don't want but I find it helps :)

[blackrosie]

As an after thought, try an hypnosis, self confidence cd, like paul mckenna. They do work!!

[lil123]

Yes gigipop
I have been feeling alot like that alately
I fled domestic violence about 18mths ago and had to leave a good job and my own home
I am now living in a council property and don't have a job either
Often it is only my little boy who keeps me going he is lovely and I fled to give him the chance of living without violence in his life
I am job hunting at the moment and have enrolled on a evening class to try and meet some people in the area
I think you have to think what small changes you can make as it's so easy to get bogged down with the bad things in our life we forget the good
I often think who am I? and what am I doing here?
I also tried dating that made me feel 100x worse as I know I am not ready to go anywhere near another relationship yet but nor do I want to be on my own forever either

[cuddleMe]

gigipop
i feeel it all the time, although i dont have any kids (too young) or any pets to look after. but everytime i wake up am like, what ami doing here? i dont know who i am, iim stil living with my annoying parents, i havent acheived anything apart from 2 degrees which are worthless, cant find decent job, im full of rejections and feels the whole world are against me, im trapped in this really big whole which i cant seem to get out or theres no sign of anyone helping me.
what ever i do or try to do it just seems to lead nowhere and im back to square one or 10 steps back!!

u can easily refer it to the Adel song... "should i give up or should i just keep chasing pavements even if it leads nowhere?"----but if u know its going to lead nowhere then why keep chasing it???? :( .... keep smiling lil, your boy will sense that u r not happy, b there for him, try and join a gym or do an evening course or mayb decorate your house like painting etc? Keep smiling, xxx

[MiniN]

Gigi,

have you thought about volunteering? i definatley think it's a good idea if you do some training if there's something you really want to do!

I'm not a mum yet, but i think its amazing what all mum's do. I have a 'good' job that i study to do at university to do but i know mum's have a harder job than most childless folk. you need to give yourself a pat on the back for doing such a good job of raising a family so far. you're still very young and not too old to be starting a new career in the next couple of years. btw universities love mature students and at my uni there was plenty so you're not on your own.

the world is full of opportunities, go get em gigi!